That other people have different ideas about what "being responsible and shouldering their part of the load" means?
or that what you feel is "right" may not be what's right?
You expect people to think about what they are doing & change but at the same time refuse acknowledge that someone may want you to think about what you are doing & change.
You point fingers then get mad when fingers are pointed back.
I don't feel I have a problem with being responsible or shouldering my part of the load. I maybe feel that you (& other here) do. That being case, only God & time will tell who's right.
Maybe we all need to climb down from our ivory towers, ya dig?