but my question is, why does everyone assume (or why is everyone assuming that people assume...follow?) that appearance = attitude??
granted, people are going to categorize in some way/shape/form. It's a psychological phenomenon; how we make sense of the world.
still, nobody ever told me (nor did I feel) that every sista w/ a natural/dreads/headwrap was "deep." Nor did I consider myself "selling out" because I had a perm.