See my response to Utamaroho(how is that pronounced?)I know, I know, it is a somewhat oversimplified, perfect world I am speaking of but, I'm gonna dream.
As far as us, I think that society lets men in general off the hook when it comes to relationships and families. I am married to a brother that handles his bidness though.
I think that it is important to acknowledge the MANY brothers who do live their lives righteously.
Its also significant that I am a happily married heterosexual cuz a lot of brothers(and more sistas than one would believe) I have tried to open up a dialogue with have hidden behind wack thoughts like: Only man hating lesbians and/or brainwashed sell out sistah's following some "white woman shit" think like you Masani so, is you gay?
Thanks for dealing with the issues and not hidding behind some smoke screen.