that is what my husband and i call it. it severly affects men because they have to GUESS how to go about being a man and learning how NOT to RUN in times of difficulty.
But....
With the Females it is dfferent. most black women i know have HAD TO be VERY defensive in thier lives because they didn't have a father to come and defend them, even if it was just a word of wisdom. It is like EVERY DAY a young lady has to go home without her father at home, the LESS she feels like she will be able to TRUST ANYONE to commit to her in any way and when/if they do, she either freaks out and gets hella clingy or she keeps serious distance for protection. Black women are looking for thier fathers in men who are looking for thier fathers...it is sad
this is an issue that has had a serious impact on our whole communities. we complain about not having tish together but if we don't KNOW what UNION is then how do we go about UNITY in the commUNITY?:'(
my heart goes out to all who have had to go through this and all who Feel Serious Regret for doing the irreversable..
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"The one whose faith is perfect is afflicted by the whisperer(shaytaan). The thief does not bother entering a ruined house."-(al-Jawahir al-Hisan)