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48. "So that’s a no"
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and why are you implying that not taking your kids to a wedding means you don’t care about their welfare?

I get it, there are times when I used to feel guilty about leaving them to have a fun night out. I got over that shit.

You will too.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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This no kids wedding shit is for the birds [View all] , MEAT, Mon Feb-10-20 10:44 AM
 
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It’s her day... and what does being pregnant have to do with it? Lmao
Feb 10th 2020
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It’s only your day if you roll solo
Feb 10th 2020
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      You make some concessions. Others you don't. It's YOUR choice.
Feb 10th 2020
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      Pets are pets, kids are kids.
Feb 10th 2020
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      LOL Replace "pets" with "kids" in my example, then.
Feb 10th 2020
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           No. You’re using kids as solely am emotional attachment
Feb 10th 2020
21
                Do you take your kid to work with you everyday? End post
Feb 10th 2020
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                checkmate!
Feb 10th 2020
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                I check that app all day every day and message back with the teachers
Feb 10th 2020
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                          I’m ... not. That dude: kids are like pets
Feb 10th 2020
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                               I just asked if you bring them to work
Feb 10th 2020
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                                    i don’t bring my kid to work. No.
Feb 10th 2020
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                I'm not using kids as anything. I have no idea what your relationship .....
Feb 10th 2020
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      you lost EVERY parent with that Pets analogy fam...
Feb 10th 2020
16
           But then replaced "pets" with "kids" and the same point applies.
Feb 10th 2020
19
      Unfortunately, people just aren't that conscientious anymore....
Feb 10th 2020
14
      RE: Unfortunately, people just aren't that conscientious anymore....
Feb 10th 2020
18
      Maybe someday you'll get invited to a wedding...and you'll understand
Feb 10th 2020
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           My man if I was never invited to a wedding again it'd be too soon.
Feb 10th 2020
66
                how many of em had kids in attendance?
Feb 10th 2020
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                     Less than half. Probably less than a quarter actually.
Feb 10th 2020
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                          Do you have kids?
Feb 10th 2020
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                               I do not.
Feb 10th 2020
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                                    *throws up hands*.....lol....sit yo ass down folk....
Feb 10th 2020
89
                                         That was your gotcha moment ? C'monnnnnn
Feb 10th 2020
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                                              I wasn't trying to assume. Like...Legs got kids...so I at least could ta...
Feb 10th 2020
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                                                   You don't have to have kids to understand what is and isn't your place.
Feb 10th 2020
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                                                        I think you're missing a part of the dialogue.
Feb 10th 2020
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                                                             He isn’t missing anything. Either go or stay home
Feb 10th 2020
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      Rude people are rude with or without kids.
Feb 10th 2020
27
      seems like a way to get a smaller audience at the wedding.
Feb 10th 2020
39
           Now that's how you react like an adult !
Feb 10th 2020
40
           why are you so upset about this? lol
Feb 10th 2020
46
                Self-important people annoy me.
Feb 10th 2020
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           it's NOT a bad idea at all....but some people's situations are different
Feb 10th 2020
67
                Or to use up that resource on your wedding.
Feb 10th 2020
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                     yeah THAT part...if WE stumbled upon some good babysitter...we DAMN
Feb 10th 2020
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                     You prob just shouldnt go to weddings then
Feb 10th 2020
83
                     Oh I'm good on weddings at this point in my life...there's only ONE more...
Feb 10th 2020
88
                          maybe that's the diff.
Feb 10th 2020
112
                               They will be fine with or without me, I’m not moving anyone’s needle
Feb 10th 2020
139
                                    bro. they're asking you to not come.
Feb 11th 2020
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                                    that's fine that you think is whack, but
Feb 11th 2020
195
                                    LOLOLOL @ inappropriate.
Feb 11th 2020
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                     It’s never a waste to use a good baby sitter
Feb 10th 2020
90
                     that goes back to don't go.
Feb 10th 2020
117
      Lmao.. nah, all that shit is stuff YOU wanted to do for family
Feb 10th 2020
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           100%
Feb 10th 2020
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It's their wedding man.
Feb 10th 2020
2
kids make receptions way better, imo
Feb 10th 2020
3
^^^Stands in THIS line^^^^
Feb 10th 2020
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See reply three
Feb 10th 2020
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      Right. So you're assuming every parent is good.
Feb 10th 2020
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           Kids act how they’re allowed to act
Feb 10th 2020
11
Precisely why there's an option to decline...
Feb 10th 2020
6
Right !
Feb 10th 2020
10
In both of these situations the folks have reached out to invite
Feb 10th 2020
12
      I agree that it's inappropriate not to make that request right away.
Feb 10th 2020
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      So this isn’t really about the no kids thing, this is more about
Feb 10th 2020
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      well yeah, that's understandable.
Feb 10th 2020
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      then this is the only thing they've done that's out of pocket
Feb 10th 2020
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      so you're upset about a "save the date" notification?..
Feb 10th 2020
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You want it to be one way (c) Marlo Stanfield
Feb 10th 2020
8
Man, just enjoy a few hours with your wife and friends
Feb 10th 2020
28
Also, people's kids take invites from other people.
Feb 10th 2020
32
      ^THIS^
Feb 10th 2020
38
I mean you can either complain or not go, pick one.
Feb 10th 2020
29
#12
Feb 10th 2020
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      Then the post should've been a bitch fest about late changes.
Feb 10th 2020
33
      Just saw that but that’s on MEAT for not putting in original post.
Feb 10th 2020
35
      My original point still stands
Feb 10th 2020
43
           That sounds like a you problem
Feb 10th 2020
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                Whack shit is whack shit no matter how it affects me
Feb 10th 2020
132
                     nope. if it's your wedding, you make the rules
Feb 10th 2020
163
*then don't go*
Feb 10th 2020
36
I don't think people want to pay an adult head for a kid to pick over fo...
Feb 10th 2020
41
I hadn’t even thought of having to feed kids lol
Feb 10th 2020
42
People no show all the time
Feb 10th 2020
50
Sounds like that's probably what you should do.
Feb 10th 2020
53
^^^THIS. Especially if there's an open bar.
Feb 10th 2020
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      $75 isn’t breaking nobodies bank in this situation
Feb 10th 2020
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           This was 14 years ago. And that $75 added up quickly.
Feb 10th 2020
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                Not every person with a kid wants to bring their kid
Feb 10th 2020
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                     if white folks are the only people you know spending that kind of money
Feb 11th 2020
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I think some are missing a few points
Feb 10th 2020
44
#2 I got a 2 year old.
Feb 10th 2020
51
The point is, that's all a "you" problem.
Feb 10th 2020
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hang on now...
Feb 10th 2020
169
Nobody is missing anything. None of that is relevant.
Feb 10th 2020
135
      nah I think you misread my tone
Feb 10th 2020
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Defeats purpose of weddings
Feb 10th 2020
45
fuck that. I LOVE no kid weddings.
Feb 10th 2020
47
LOVE.
Feb 10th 2020
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I love choice.
Feb 10th 2020
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      you HAVE choice
Feb 10th 2020
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      But what if other guests hate kids ?! The disrespect !
Feb 10th 2020
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           Lmao.. but what about meeee????
Feb 10th 2020
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           What if other guests hate black people
Feb 10th 2020
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                ... thank you for making my point.
Feb 10th 2020
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                     Your point is what? Ranking guest preferences against each other?
Feb 10th 2020
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                          No my point is that by using your logic of "respecting your guests"
Feb 10th 2020
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                               You’re doing a lot in here.
Feb 10th 2020
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                                    About the same as you.
Feb 10th 2020
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                                         "doing a lot" translates to "my entitled opinion doesn't hold up to scru...
Feb 10th 2020
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sounds like some wps
Feb 10th 2020
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lmao.. white girl tried to make us feel guilty about leaving our kids...
Feb 10th 2020
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i had no idea no-kids weddings were even a thing
Feb 10th 2020
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No such thing with Mexicans. Kids run their world.
Feb 10th 2020
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      who the hell is the ring bearer at a no kids wedding?
Feb 10th 2020
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      The one kid important enough to get a pass
Feb 10th 2020
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      exceptions now ? lol
Feb 10th 2020
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      right! the whole concept is just stoooopid....
Feb 10th 2020
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      Not even close to being stupid.
Feb 10th 2020
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      There will be kids at the wedding... just not YOUR KIDS
Feb 10th 2020
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           that seems even more fucked up lol
Feb 10th 2020
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                Kids in the show/wedding but not in the audience
Feb 10th 2020
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      lol mexicans and super christian wypipo
Feb 10th 2020
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      This dude and his bride to be are Mexican
Feb 10th 2020
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           fuck it, just bring your kid.
Feb 10th 2020
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                lol
Feb 10th 2020
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                All "you problems".
Feb 10th 2020
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                     Have you ever planned a wedding or event?
Feb 10th 2020
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                          LOL - it seems to be awfully difficult for you to grasp that ...
Feb 10th 2020
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                          I’m entitled because I called something whack?
Feb 10th 2020
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                               Your entitled is entitled
Feb 10th 2020
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                                    That’s a reach.
Feb 10th 2020
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                          there are ALLLLL sorts of things you can't bring kids to homie
Feb 10th 2020
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                          Lmao.. I hope this post was just to get thru monday
Feb 10th 2020
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                lmao.. I wouldn’t even eat the food. Can’t trust them brand new type...
Feb 10th 2020
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This is self centered than a mug lol
Feb 10th 2020
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Correct.
Feb 10th 2020
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Per Phonte twitter: "Fuck them kids"
Feb 10th 2020
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I haven't taken my son to any weddings at all
Feb 10th 2020
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A VERY important point
Feb 10th 2020
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If it was out of town we probably wouldn’t want to take her no way
Feb 10th 2020
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      the parenting choice is grandma or cousin or don’t go
Feb 10th 2020
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      Yeah, having a choice is dope. *If* I wanted to bring the kid...
Feb 11th 2020
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There are several categories of people in this post...
Feb 10th 2020
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nah, but there are 2 kinds of parents
Feb 10th 2020
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Is there a formal term for a guest version of a Bridezilla?
Feb 10th 2020
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Ha nice.
Feb 10th 2020
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guestzilla?
Feb 10th 2020
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trippin
Feb 10th 2020
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MEATzilla
Feb 10th 2020
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I’ve ... asked for nothing.
Feb 10th 2020
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Not sure how y'all don't see the slight in this...
Feb 10th 2020
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Damn y'all really need to get over yourselves.
Feb 10th 2020
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Damn y'all really need to learn some etiquette.
Feb 10th 2020
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Oh the irony.
Feb 10th 2020
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People that hate kids are shitty anyway. Don’t invite THEM.
Feb 10th 2020
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      LOL
Feb 10th 2020
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      people that hate kids don't actually hate kids
Feb 10th 2020
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           i've never been to a wedding where a child stole the show
Feb 10th 2020
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           Me neither... but since I’m going there to drink and eat their shit up
Feb 10th 2020
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           this:
Feb 11th 2020
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You really need to not be so entitled.
Feb 10th 2020
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Like, for real
Feb 11th 2020
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it just seems like putting the ceremony too high on a pedestal
Feb 10th 2020
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Umm.. it’s a wedding. It’s literally the most high ceremony
Feb 10th 2020
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Or the onus could be on the guest to leave them kids at home
Feb 10th 2020
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So basically, y’all just care about getting that registry fulfilled.
Feb 10th 2020
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      they just inviting you because your wife is friends with the bride
Feb 10th 2020
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Man.. fuck all that shit b
Feb 10th 2020
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Pretty damn much.
Feb 10th 2020
126
      He ain’t trolling...lol
Feb 10th 2020
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           ^^^knows my steez too well lol^^^^
Feb 11th 2020
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                Yeah, you stay wrong... lol
Feb 11th 2020
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nah foh.
Feb 10th 2020
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my gran' pappy eloped, my parents eloped, I eloped...
Feb 10th 2020
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you're either a friend or cousin to the person getting married
Feb 10th 2020
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I'm saying....
Feb 10th 2020
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Doesn’t make the request not whack
Feb 10th 2020
138
don't go is the easy answer.. saves you lots of $$ too.
Feb 10th 2020
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You're really out here thinking a wedding is about you and your kid
Feb 10th 2020
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I'm playing devils advocate, but i honestly didn't know it was a thing
Feb 10th 2020
136
i don’t think anyone in my actual family would do that
Feb 10th 2020
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pretty much. I have no real beef with it.
Feb 10th 2020
165
Maybe its cause i'm from the South? idk
Feb 10th 2020
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shit don't feel "foreign", shit is whack. Don't normalize whack shit fam...
Feb 10th 2020
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fuck weddings, get money
Feb 10th 2020
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don't go and save your coins...
Feb 10th 2020
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my wife and I went to like 20 weddings in two years
Feb 10th 2020
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man, when someone apologizes for why they couldn't invite
Feb 10th 2020
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just send me the registry link and we are gooooood
Feb 10th 2020
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LOL this is probably the smartest reply in here
Feb 10th 2020
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you know how it is. you know *too many people* who are getting married
Feb 10th 2020
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I 100% agree.
Feb 10th 2020
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Plus, didn't you high five your then-fiance when people RSVP no?
Feb 10th 2020
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      definitely would have, but we did a small wedding
Feb 10th 2020
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      but yeah, it's a favor that goes both ways
Feb 10th 2020
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I'm having a "no kids" funeral.
Feb 10th 2020
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That's A+ pettiness right there.
Feb 10th 2020
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me too!
Feb 10th 2020
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is this a white thing??? i have never heard of such a thing before
Feb 10th 2020
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it really depends on who you kick it with
Feb 11th 2020
189
Breweries are great for parents with kids.
Feb 11th 2020
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      Nah, keep your kids out of adult places
Feb 11th 2020
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      Lmao... go to any brewery on a weekend and it’s like a playground
Feb 11th 2020
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      Only if they have kid specific areas
Feb 11th 2020
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      It’s pretty hard to get shit faced drunk at a brewery
Feb 11th 2020
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      it was a place where peopledo bring kids
Feb 11th 2020
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Nah, I do think it's some millennial shit though...they the only ones
Feb 11th 2020
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Nah. It’s boughetto shit
Feb 11th 2020
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LMAO... you sound goofy as hell.
Feb 11th 2020
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      Ehhh, wasn’t a thing people requests 20 years ago
Feb 11th 2020
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           Compare the cost of the average wedding now to 20 years ago
Feb 11th 2020
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           I don’t think this has to do with money
Feb 11th 2020
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           None of this is new...
Feb 11th 2020
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                Can y’all clarify the entitlement angle, because I’m not seeing it
Feb 11th 2020
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                You said something like “they took away my choice to parent”
Feb 11th 2020
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                They aren’t allowing a parent decision
Feb 11th 2020
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                     that's the entitlement.
Feb 11th 2020
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                     That’s not an entitlement that’s a want
Feb 11th 2020
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                     They aren’t allowing you to bring the kid.
Feb 11th 2020
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                you think they need to cater to you and your desires....for their weddin...
Feb 11th 2020
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                I ... don’t though.
Feb 11th 2020
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                     if you're not the person getting married or paying for it your opinion.....
Feb 11th 2020
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                     This is the most loserish shit I’ve ever heard.
Feb 11th 2020
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                     you literally do, based on everything you've actually said.
Feb 11th 2020
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                          If I don’t express this to the couple what’s the problem?
Feb 11th 2020
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                               Your opinion comes from YOU. it's an expression of YOU. it's YOU.
Feb 11th 2020
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                                    Man I posted on a message board.
Feb 11th 2020
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                                         ......and cue the ad hominem, lmao.
Feb 11th 2020
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                                              It's not that serious to address, points, there's no points
Feb 11th 2020
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                                                   it was serious enough for you to make personal attacks
Feb 11th 2020
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                                                        Would it help if I said sorry? You do a lot in every post
Feb 11th 2020
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                                                             You express opinions, but don't actually own them.
Feb 11th 2020
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                                                                  Dude. Ok.
Feb 11th 2020
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                You don't get to decide who attends someone else's wedding...
Feb 11th 2020
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                     He's also said more than once that couples should "respect their guests"
Feb 11th 2020
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                     Couples should respect their guests
Feb 11th 2020
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                          Entitled af.
Feb 11th 2020
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                     You don’t at all. And if you think you can that’s trash.
Feb 11th 2020
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                          you want it to be one way © Marlo...
Feb 11th 2020
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                               I disagree. My preference would’ve been that the ask was never made
Feb 11th 2020
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                New to me.. I ain’t ever heard of no kid weddings back then
Feb 11th 2020
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its an economic thing unless your grandma & aunties are doing a potluck....
Feb 11th 2020
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Kids are gross
Feb 11th 2020
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kids....ALL up in the videos..
Feb 11th 2020
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Underrated response
Feb 11th 2020
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We didn't have a no kids wedding Per se but everyone wasn't allowed to
Feb 11th 2020
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basically...
Feb 11th 2020
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We didn't allow children at ours. It was an intimate affair and I didn'...
Feb 11th 2020
I've given this more thought and concluded that the REAL issue is:
Feb 11th 2020
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NOBODY WANTS TO GO TO YOUR WEDDING
Feb 11th 2020
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lies...
Feb 11th 2020
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Wife and I went to a wedding in LA. We had a blast
Feb 11th 2020
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exactly!
Feb 11th 2020
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Co-sign...
Feb 11th 2020
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When I was in my wedding prime they were big fun.
Feb 11th 2020
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I think you need to get your T levels checked. You been slippin’ latel...
Feb 11th 2020
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Our wedding was dope. We had a great turn out and a packed dance floor
Feb 11th 2020
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I've seen people have "open" weddings as far as the ceremony but...
Feb 11th 2020
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Hmm.. I’ve seen the opposite
Feb 11th 2020
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      that's because people skip the church/ceremony because it's boring af
Feb 11th 2020
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      basically. The reception is the real party
Feb 11th 2020
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      yeah. depends on the ceremony though. we made ours short and sweet.
Feb 11th 2020
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           If your ceremony includes a religious ceremony or mass...
Feb 11th 2020
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                if/when I remarry, there will be no religious element at all
Feb 11th 2020
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      I have too, I've literally seen everything, at the end of the day...
Feb 11th 2020
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      Man, we went to a wedding a couple months ago...
Feb 11th 2020
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           who was paying / who made the decisions
Feb 11th 2020
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                Bride's family
Feb 11th 2020
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                     it's always about the money
Feb 11th 2020
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                          and I don't mean just what's spent
Feb 11th 2020
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a lot of conflation of "wedding" and "reception"
Feb 11th 2020
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Real question...
Feb 11th 2020
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      I think my friend's was like that
Feb 11th 2020
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      I've seen both
Feb 11th 2020
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      We did that *shrugs*
Feb 11th 2020
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      LOL! I've never seen it...
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      HOW DISRESPECTFUL OF YOU !
Feb 11th 2020
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      My favorite turn of events in this thread
Feb 11th 2020
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      wait WHAT!!!? lmao... yo... you're a mess, lmao
Feb 11th 2020
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      dude lol
Feb 11th 2020
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      Ladies and Gents.. FluidJ
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      The ceremony is for people that love you on a certain level
Feb 11th 2020
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      Mine was like that. Because the wedding was at my parents’
Feb 12th 2020
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Best policy I've seen is to hire a babysitter.
Feb 11th 2020
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what was the ticket on that wedding, ballpark
Feb 11th 2020
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This is quite common. Last two weddings I went to (Both Black) were
Feb 11th 2020
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Ain’t seen you in a minute
Feb 11th 2020
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I feel like MEAT was trolling all of us in this post lol
Feb 12th 2020
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I’m not. I have strong opinions on how I’d like to be treated
Feb 12th 2020
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      RE: I’m not. I have strong opinions on how I’d like to be treated
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      RE: I’m not. I have strong opinions on how I’d like to be treated
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      Dogg. lol. Come the fuck on.
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      Aint you white?
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           When all else fails, change the subject !
Feb 12th 2020
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                You can’t downplay how your whiteness shapes your responses
Feb 12th 2020
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                     Damn this is really, really desperate.
Feb 12th 2020
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                     Sooooooo ... black people were left out because it was y’all’s day
Feb 12th 2020
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                          Keep going man. You've already made enough of a fool out of yourself.
Feb 12th 2020
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                               Am I cooning, or samboing, or step and fetching?
Feb 12th 2020
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                     archive.
Feb 12th 2020
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                     Damn
Feb 12th 2020
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                          is the bride MEATS ex? Why is he so invested and mad about this?
Feb 12th 2020
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                               I’ll be an asshole but I’m not joking about that mans wife ok?
Feb 12th 2020
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                               lmao
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      You have strong opinions on how they should organize their wedding.
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Speak now or forever hold your peace...
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