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13. "Your brother, in a way, was a peace maker. "
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I posted this in the sports board the day it happened, but it's pertinent to your request for memories. I'll share with you my lasting memory of him and how it affected me.
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He made a post about how we treat each other- specifically the way we speak to each other. "Kill yourself" is a common, snarky response to people online and it seems to fly like water around here it seems. I thought at the time that this post it was in direct response to something severely fucked up that I said to another OKP, who I had this fucked up OKP e-fued with for a while. I went way over the top out of the clear blue and we had a new set of exchanges over it. I won't rehash that history but it was what it was and I said things I have since apologized for.

So within a day or two, Radin made a post about how it's never ok to speak death on someone or their family, for any reason. My only real response was something along the lines of the OKP mods taking the stance that it's acceptable speech to use the internet "kill yourself" retort since it's not something to take literally; it's just something people say. I understood what he said and in fact had made similar posts, but I was trying to make a point of my own instead of just telling him, "you know, you're right. Period."
I can't recall if that was the same post where he told us his grandmother was likely going to die and he had to rush to see her before that happened. I think it was a separate post but I'm not sure. Anyhow that post kinda haunts me now. I wonder if he was thinking those thoughts right then, you know?

I squared things away with that OKP and we're all kosher right today (c). That OKP's profile was previously disabled so I couldn't reach out to apologize, but it was in the initial GD post about Radin's passing that I noticed he had enabled it again, so I hit him up and we squashed it. In a fucked up way, Radin is responsible for that. Oddly enough, Radin's interaction with that same OKP weren't far off of mine prior to all this. Anyhow your brother was really just trying to talk some sense into all of us, and he was 100% correct. So my lasting memory of him will be him trying to 'increase the peace', so to speak, or at least lesson the level of vitriol within even negative interactions. He established that there is a clear line we should not cross, even in the midst of bickering, and he was right.

  

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RADIN [View all] , cbeten, Tue Dec-11-12 10:54 AM
 
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peace to you and your family.
Dec 11th 2012
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peace to you and your entire family.
Dec 11th 2012
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I'm very sorry for your loss
Dec 11th 2012
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z"l
Dec 11th 2012
4
your brother was straight class
Dec 11th 2012
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peace...
Dec 11th 2012
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Radin and I used to go hard at each other...
Dec 11th 2012
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Peace and eventual understanding to your family.
Dec 11th 2012
8
Is there anything you can tell us about his last days?
Dec 11th 2012
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thank you for this...
Dec 11th 2012
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Every interaction i had with him was positive
Dec 11th 2012
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A few years ago I interacted with Radin quite a bit
Dec 11th 2012
12
^^ that's peace right there. nm
Dec 11th 2012
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      yup
Dec 11th 2012
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peace and prayers
Dec 11th 2012
14
peace
Dec 11th 2012
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I don't have a story to share...
Dec 11th 2012
17
Love + Condolences + Prayers
Dec 11th 2012
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Thank You
Dec 11th 2012
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positive vibes to you and your family
Dec 11th 2012
20
Peace to you and your family. We miss him.
Dec 11th 2012
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sorry for your loss... stay strong..
Dec 11th 2012
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RE: RADIN
Dec 11th 2012
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Peace to you and your family
Dec 11th 2012
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RE: RADIN
Dec 11th 2012
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Susie!
Dec 11th 2012
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RE: RADIN
Dec 11th 2012
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      Here's a link to his posts. It's nowhere to be found.
Dec 11th 2012
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      i'm not sure that he actually made his comments publicly...
Dec 11th 2012
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      RE: RADIN
Dec 11th 2012
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      He only made one thread that I could remember, deleted I think
Dec 11th 2012
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           i've searched the boards...
Dec 11th 2012
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           i remember that post
Dec 11th 2012
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peace and condolences to you and your family.
Dec 11th 2012
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peace and blessings. he was family, so ya'll are family.
Dec 11th 2012
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radin and I hated O.A.R. with the same fervor
Dec 11th 2012
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he and I had a few inbox conversations over the years
Dec 11th 2012
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peace to you and your family through this tragic time
Dec 11th 2012
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positive love & vibes to you and your family
Dec 11th 2012
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really unfortunate that it had to go this way
Dec 11th 2012
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wow...RIP. :-(
Dec 11th 2012
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My condolences
Dec 11th 2012
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Peace to you and yours.
Dec 12th 2012
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My condolences to the family
Dec 12th 2012
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i wish you and your family the best
Dec 12th 2012
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condolensces
Dec 12th 2012
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Sorry for your and your family's loss...
Dec 12th 2012
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May the Lord God cover you and your family during this time.
Dec 12th 2012
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i'll miss seeing your brother's name on here...
Dec 12th 2012
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my prayers go out to you and your family.
Dec 12th 2012
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peace to you and yours.
Dec 12th 2012
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peace to you, and your loved ones. thanks for posting this.
Dec 13th 2012
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i'm very sorry for your loss.
Dec 13th 2012
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