>But the kid can get penalized bc the parebt accepted
>something?

Yes.

>What if it was unbeknownst to the player? He still gets penalized?

Yes, though most players who get caught in this situation all say they didn't know, so it's hard to tell when that's a line and when it's the truth.

>And when they start fining the player?

That is... new, and, of course, insane.