>she trumps the other women who were talking about broader
>issues than her feelings on the subject, but we don't want to
>hear that in our boys club.

You've almost played a nice slight of hand here, but it doesn't quite work. Her willingness to forgive isn't trumping other women, it's trumping a conversation that focuses on her. Nobody's stopped from talking about a broader issue here. Just stopped from making her a tentpole in that discussion.

Here's another pithy moment in catechism: sin is treating objects like people and people like objects. Whether she's text or t&a seems like six of one and half dozen of the other to me since neither one gets to be a person. So even if it plays better in an undergraduate WGS class, I don't think turning her into a stick with which to whap people we don't like is substantively better than turning her into a particularly pleasant arrangement of flesh.

Civilization will, at some point, have to continue and that works most smoothly when we permit the aggrieved party power down the outrage machine themselves.