her perspective is still framed by different ways of winning the game, just as her father and brother viewed loyalty as part of the game. it's a different perspective, but the same trap.

cersei's lost her entire family several times over and most of her allies, but sansa still only sees cersei as being a master player.

those children didn't side with the boltons, that was jon's point. they're potential allies and a potential means of reforging the kinds of traditions that might hold the north together against the winter.

it's the same thing d has been doing.

you can't look at it as punishment and rewards because what's coming doesn't honor those value systems. you gather as many people as you can and do your best to to take any of them for granted.