2682904, Excellent Posted by MME, Fri Apr-06-12 09:30 PM
>that Kurt Cobain was actually among us & in the public eye, >probably because his existence bookended my adolescence with >near-perfect symmetry (blew up in '91 then was gone by spring >of '94 when I was graduating high school). > >I recall where I was the first time I saw the video for >'Smells Like Teen Spirit'.....Buffalo, New York at my great >aunt's house over Thanksgiving & they introduced it on 120 >Minutes as a World Premiere sometime after midnight. The rest >of the fam was sleeping upstairs in a small house with a TV by >the stairs in the living room where I was sleeping on a >pullout couch (strategically so I'd be able to stay up late & >watch TV). As the song kicked in I started feeling compelled >to turn the volumne up slightly, then slightly more, then MORE >until halfway through the song I'm sure it was at a level that >would be considered 'blasting' in a quiet house. Soon after my >old man was rushing to the top of the stairs in his Jockeys >yelling at me to turn it down & go to sleep. Damage was >already done though, that song was already ingrained in me >from that point forward (even if overplay has dulled the power >it once had). > >The day that January when Kurt OD'd in Rome & was rumored to >be dead I remember walking the halls in between classes & >getting actually taunted about it by a couple of the >dyed-in-the-wool classic-rockists who were constantly battling >me (who knew as much or more about their Zep/Stones as them) >on any rap or modern-day rock I was checking for......'You're >boy's fucking dead, Bomb!' dude was shouting at me & I didn't >know whether to haul off & punch him in the face, laugh it off >not believing or slip out somewhere to go find out for real. >Luckily it turned out not to be his fate (at least not right >then but there was always a weird sense of time-running-short >inevitability along with his seeming invincibility, like a >rock version of Pac in some way). > >Him not dying in Rome led to us being able to see the >now-famous Unplugged episode, which I recall watching with my >mom (a huge Beatles fan) who for the first time could actually >make sense of the noisy shit she'd been hearing & the band I'd >been championing during my borderline juvenille-delinquent >high school existence. I recall being proud that on some level >his talent was visible to old folks but at the same time >almost scared/put-off by it, same way I don't know how to >react to the kids who came later & swear by that Unplugged >album which to me was a nice different look but really didn't >sum up the loud/abrasive/confrontational essence of the band >best displayed in stuff like their '91 Reading Festival or New >Year's Eve Live & Loud performances. > >I plainly remember where I was in April of '94 when I found >out he was dead for real like it happened yesterday. I was at >the Hallahan house house in Dungarvan, Ireland during spring >break from school (one of my best friends growing up was >originally from Ireland & through his old man we ended up >gettin hooked-up with free Air Lingus plane tickets plus put >up by his aunt/uncle in their place with four of us Americans >plus his 12 cousins). > >For those unfamiliar, Irish people are the biggest collection >of bullshitters of any ethnicity on earth (for example earlier >in that week his Uncle Dano had fooled my friend John into >thinking he'd won the Irish lottery by reading the numbers off >the ticket he was holding-out in too-plain view while >pretending to read the results from a newspaper......he let us >jump around the kitchen thinking we'd won a million pounds or >so for a good five minutes before telling us). > >So when my boy's cousin Audrey came up to me & said 'Bomb, ya >man is dead' I already had my guard up without even fully >grasping who she was referring to yet. But I did against my >better judgement ask for clarification & in that mellifluous >Irish accent that at that moment sounded menacing she said 'ya >man, Kurt Cobain. He's dead. Shot heemself in the fooking head >with a shotgun!'. > >I didn't buy it but at the same time felt compelled to head >downstairs from the upstairs bedroom area (where the rooms all >looked like barracks because as I mentioned they had 14 kids, >plus were putting up four of us U.S. visitors) to the kitchen. >Auntie Cellie was the one person in the family who didn't seem >full of shit so I came downstairs to ask her & as she labored >over a dinner fit for an army she seemed to acknowledge that >what Audrey was saying was true, I still insisted they put on >the radio & as it came on they were playing "Something In The >Way".....uh-oh, bad sign. When that song finally 'hmmmmm'-d >out some BBC host came on to acknowledge that they'd confirmed >via Seattle police that the body found on the estate dead of a >self-inflicted shotgun wound was in fact Kurt Cobain. > >My man was, indeed, really dead this time. > >The rest of events that followed that spring/summer of 1994 >(that night taking full advantage of the ability to drink >booze at 18 to a level that left me throwing while up in a >gutter by a curb after a late-night post-pub grub session in >which I carwalked for a full two blocks of cobblestone >streets, the weird Courtney Love reading of the suicide note >over a PA system to a park full of mourners, coming back to >the states at the end of that week to regale all the folks >who'd never left the country with tales of Irish countryside, >the girl I'd been in love with for the prior year finally >finally acquiescing to my advances, graduation, cop chases, >clashes with the folks over my then completely unforseeable & >fucked-up future, etc) went by in a surreal haze that sort of >runs together but amzingly several of those little moments >involving a self-loathing rock-icon from Aberdeen, Washington >stand out. > >I don't know what any of that really means. I don't even >really listen to Nirvana much anymore (or at least I didn't >for a long stretch, now I can sorta go back & enjoyed the shit >out of the Bleach reissue last year), nor is it a group I even >feel I could ever objectively comment on or divorce myself >from the personal enough to evaluate their musical merits. > >But this day 18 years ago was sort of the end & the beginning >of a lot of things (hard to believe I'm now a 36-year-old >posting this from my own office in LA on a hip-hop website >started by the Philly cats on Kurt's old label who I was going >to see play the Middle East on Chestnut to a crowd of a couple >hundred or so shortly after this). > >I'm sure a lot of people who are passionate about music have >those same sort of post-markers from their adolescence (when >music is usually at its most heightened level of importance >because everything thing is more dramatic/important/etc when >you're a restless teenager trying to navigate that awkward >terrain between childhood & adulthood) but the way Kurt >Cobain's time in the public eye so closely shadowed the tenure >of my own adolescence puts this dude in a space that no other >artist will ever be able to occupy. > >And for that fact I'm both slightly saddened (the way thinking >about how young you used to be gives you that wave of >nostalgia & longing) but at the same time incredibly relieved >because while it's cool to experience/be-enthralled by >music/musical-idols it's also a completely ridiculous & >sometimes dangerously false premise to truly invest that much >emotion in people that you will never actually know. > >The guy who penned a song called 'I Hate Myself & Want To Die' >seemed to know get that more than anyone while at the same >time end up falling prey to the same old rock-mythology >bullshit. > >I guess such is the defeatist dichotomy of a man who coined >the phrase 'practice makes perfect but nobody's perfect so why >practice?'. > >Oh well.....18 years later right/wrong or in between, that's >still my man. > >RIP Kurt C.
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