I ask because I don’t like drinking with strangers. There are bunches of free arts and culture activities in STL but when I say “oh we instead of drinks how about we hit up Shakespeare in the Park…” everyone knows Shakespeare in the Park is free here and I can just hear them frowning through the phone OR if it’s text they just don’t respond until after that day or too late with something like “sorry about x,y,s but I’m free fro drinks on ___”

Basically I be suggesting stuff other than drinks that is free (which in my mind means low stakes), public, something that interests me and might inspire conversation but it never works.