and they won't respond to my text messages with basic shit like, the proper spelling of the kids names and whether or not they would like this or that. It is frustrating! These are the same people who feel like nobody ever does for them or their kids.

My mom said that some parents feel resentment when someone else can do for their kids what they can't do.

Last year, I bought my cousin's son this book https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Stuntboy-in-the-Meantime/Jason-Reynolds/9781534418165 (among other gifts) and when he opened it Christmas morning he frowned, said "I don't read books" and tossed it on the floor. I have it on video!

I am not making any purchases this year if they don't respond to my questions. That is money I could spend on things I want!