>he's in his early 40's but is an old man in his ways. his
>ways of thinking are very old school and he's not a person
>that communicates.
>
>my hope is that he reconciles with his sister. we'll see.

I think one thing that gets lost in situations like these, is that the person who finally gives up, *finally* gave up.

Why'd the straw break the camel's back
Here's the secret
It's a million other straws beneath it- Mighty Mos Def

Most caring, empathetic, and compassionate people will make that effort.

Even when it all the signs indicate that it will be a fruitless endeavor.