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13451581, ** CONFESSION WEDNESDAY **
Posted by Geah, Tue Jan-11-22 11:59 PM
13451586, I be feeling some kinda way when.....
Posted by FLUIDJ, Wed Jan-12-22 08:17 AM
Black themed clothing, cards, stationary, etc.... will have like a depiction of a generic Black man...but they don't ever be lighter complexioned....
Us lighter complexion brothers need representation too yo...
13451592, The money is funny
Posted by legsdiamond, Wed Jan-12-22 10:11 AM
got a 5% raise but of course the furnace is acting up… money

Need 2 tires and an alignment.. money

Have a few side hustles that are interesting. I been slipping on my grind but after working 8 hours and getting home to spend time with the kids.. I just wanna chill. But the goal is an extra $1,000 to $1500 every month. This month I have $1200 in side hustles but nothing lined up for February.

Also time to sit down and create a few items that can be sold without having to take 5 hours to make each one.

I have tons of photos and logos and sketches. I need to open a store of some sorts.


Going to New Orleans this Spring for the nephews wedding. Never been before. Should be fun. Going to take a few extra days to kick it. Can’t wait!



13451599, Daughter tested negative today, after testing positive Saturday
Posted by MEAT, Wed Jan-12-22 10:47 AM
I'm still positive. Wife and Son tested negative and never turned positive.

So that provides a better snapshot of how it made it's way through the house. In that it either hit everyone else first and then her then me, or she was the first and I'm last.

Either way, I still maintain you can't fight a global pandemic with individual actions.

Anyways, we had packed up the car on 12/31, drove down to South Padre on 1/1. It's the first time we've been able to take off of work and travel since Christmas of 2019. Called ourselves dipping in our toes into the water and meeting the rest of the world six months ago.

And at some point during those five days, the world met us. The kicker being that we spent nearly the entire time when going out of the hotel room, outdoors and masked up while doing so. The only time we weren't masked, was at the beach, and even then we were far from other people. Because who goes to the beach in 40 degree weather?

You can drive on Texas beaches by the way.

In the now, I'm just glad everyone is ok, if we hadn't tested we wouldn't have known. But that's the randomness of it all.
13451605, scary times
Posted by legsdiamond, Wed Jan-12-22 11:16 AM
I said it was random when it comes to who will catch Covid in a household and Brew clapped back for some odd reason.

hope everyone stays healthy.

13451609, My beef, more than the randomness, is the extreme transmissibility
Posted by MEAT, Wed Jan-12-22 11:31 AM
We weren't around anyone when not wearing KN95 masks. Didn't eat indoors. And only around each other.

Here's the total time we spent indoors and masked

1. The gas station on the way down for a pee stop
2. The grocery store at the island
3. The gift shop at the turtle center
4. The alligator exhibit at the bird center
5. The grocery store on Monday (me)

Other than that we were in the hotel room or outdoors

When in the hotel we were masked as soon as we walked in, until we got into the room.

If I had to guess the baby caught it at some point early in the week he's not masked. My daughter then got it from him, had one night of fever (Monday), but we didn't test because
1. she fights tests and
2. it only lasted the night
3. kid gunk has been going around in the house since November
Wednesday we head home, wife said she wasn't feeling great, she tested Thursday, Friday, Saturday and never popped up positive.
I tested Thursday, Friday, Saturday and only showed up positive Saturday.

Nobody is sick sick. I only tested because my nose started running. And I've been in my office isolated ever since.

13451612, my confession: I really question if these test can tell covid from cold
Posted by legsdiamond, Wed Jan-12-22 11:48 AM
like how accurate are these test because this variant is moving so fast, yet so mild for most that ionno

I know the science and data and what not will have people shaking their head at me but its confession wed.
13451613, I've taken numerous tests in the last two years
Posted by MEAT, Wed Jan-12-22 11:57 AM
And we've had more colds than a few. Two kids in daycare, gunk stays floating through this house.
This is the first time anyone has tested positive.
In addition to the two tests I took at home Saturday I also went to a clinic where I also tested positive.
13451637, Hope you all get better soon
Posted by handle, Wed Jan-12-22 02:56 PM
They say Omicron is something like 15-17 times more contagious than the O.G. version, and like 5 times more contagious than delta.

Wishing you well.
13451638, Thanks, we're fine. I tested Saturday my symptoms were headache
Posted by MEAT, Wed Jan-12-22 03:03 PM
Runny nose, fatigue, and sore eyeballs
Sunday it was fatigue and sore eyeballs
The past two days I've just been tired. But that could be that I've been stuck in my office for four days and sleeping on an air mattress.

If I hadn't tested we wouldn't have known.

Which is all of the irony because my wife was sick for days and never tested positive.

I ran the house Wednesday night through Saturday morning because she wasn't feeling good.
13451682, My PCR test came back negative
Posted by MEAT, Thu Jan-13-22 10:45 AM
13451601, Being a new parent is stressful on ones dispositions
Posted by walihorse, Wed Jan-12-22 11:00 AM
I'm a pretty laid back person. the majority of things that occur, I take in stride and don't tend to overreact.

But having an infant and being unsure about things is stressing me out. Today, I decided to give my almost 7 month old eggs. I knew of the possibilities a reaction. My wife and I have been introducing new foods on a weekly basis and she been chill with everything.

Today he had an extremely mild reaction, just a bit of hives which (luckily) quickly went away.

But my wife tends to overreact and her reaction to things just made me panic. we immediately called her pediatrician.

Like I'm seating her shitting bricks, at any point I could do something that could cause so much harm to my daughter fucks me up.
13451611, people put odd stickers on their cars
Posted by mista k5, Wed Jan-12-22 11:45 AM
i saw a late 90s civic with a big "only gay cops pull me over" sticker on the trunk the other day.
13451614, Fred Armisen played sooooooo many problematic roles on SNL
Posted by MEAT, Wed Jan-12-22 12:19 PM
Shit is uncomfortable to revisit, wasn't ever all that reasonable in the first place.
13451636, like which ones?
Posted by double negative, Wed Jan-12-22 02:46 PM
I'm not disagreeing at all, I just want to know.

he's a weird one, i always feel like if some creep shit came out about him, no one would be surprised.
13451639, Every? 85%?
Posted by MEAT, Wed Jan-12-22 03:14 PM
Let me go through my watch history from the last day or two

Here he is as a woman, which wouldn't be an issue, except he plays sooooooo many women.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0EqINqnEa-Y&t=246s
or a teen girl
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pWm_H6xtgoM

Asian Benihana chef
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lxqPfwKb4E4

Vaguely latino comedian
https://youtu.be/8UHLycoFTbc?t=127

That's just what was on autoplay for a day

Here's him as a woman
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kbq1L9VMfr0

Another woman
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HphFPQvAWHY&t=226s

Another woman
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xiUvAWZr-5U

Another woman
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TeZCNs46YA8

Another woman
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A_Z-cr5J90A

Another woman
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hp9kYKFRh2I

Jersey stereotype
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B3L2xd5lNrw

13451646, lmao at another woman X10
Posted by legsdiamond, Wed Jan-12-22 04:46 PM
and another, and another
13451647, SNL was like why do we need a diverse cast?
Posted by mista k5, Wed Jan-12-22 04:48 PM
Fred can play that!
13451648, He did every light skinned Black character
Posted by MEAT, Wed Jan-12-22 04:55 PM
And anyone middle eastern
13451617, working 65 hours a week over 2 jobs
Posted by shygurl, Wed Jan-12-22 12:36 PM
I am exhausted. I have *three* co-workers at my part time job who are all in their 50s who work the same hours as me and they all seem fine, but I am struggling lol.

Need to go to sleep faster when I get home, but it genuinely takes me 2-3 hours to fall asleep once I get home, and I have no idea how to train myself to relax/unwind any quicker.
13451626, I just watched my neighbor use a leaf blower to blow all
Posted by SuiteLady, Wed Jan-12-22 01:58 PM
the leaves and trash into my yard. I was standing at the living room window and he didn’t see me. I should have confronted him but I am not in the mood. I went out after him and raked it all into the street. Also not in the mood to bag leaves right now.
13451627, wow, that's shitty
Posted by Ashy Achilles, Wed Jan-12-22 02:00 PM
13451632, since this is CW...
Posted by FLUIDJ, Wed Jan-12-22 02:31 PM
I be doin that shit LOL...



BUT!!! All them leaves come from THEIR yard!
NO trees in my back yard...bad enough I even gotta deal with them at all lol
13451633, man
Posted by mista k5, Wed Jan-12-22 02:33 PM






i kind of just let the wind take care of them :/
13451634, sometimes it be getting out of hand....
Posted by FLUIDJ, Wed Jan-12-22 02:35 PM
basically I'll do a good initial pass when the bulk of the leaves fall...but then they got another tree that be taking FOREVER to shed and it be cold by the time it's done...so I just blow that shit back over the fence...






"Get ready....for your blessing....."
"Bury me by my Grand-Grand and when you can come follow me"
13451635, RE: sometimes it be getting out of hand....
Posted by mista k5, Wed Jan-12-22 02:39 PM
i missed the second part of your post. if it is their tree then its kind of fair.

i think when i visited family on thanksgiving my neighbor did that to me. i think they trimmed the branches that were reaching over their property. i came back and the branches and leaves were on my yard. i wasnt mad, im renting so whatever. i was planning to go get them to put them in the trashcan but a few days later they were gone lol
13451642, nah.. that is shitty
Posted by legsdiamond, Wed Jan-12-22 04:21 PM
13451641, He could have picked up the trash. There is one tree on my property
Posted by SuiteLady, Wed Jan-12-22 04:06 PM
and one in his - who is to say where the leaves came from. I am also renting so I can’t cut the tree down. This guy seems to dislike my landlord. He told me once that she should sell the property to him.

I might buy a leaf blower myself and just blow the leaves away. There was no reason for him to not pick up the trash though. Since I didn’t pick it up this time after he blew it in my yard it will probably end up back on his property anyway. I had been wondering how so much ends up in my yard - no matter how often I go out and clean or rake. Now I know.
13451645, trash tho? Who blows trash?
Posted by legsdiamond, Wed Jan-12-22 04:44 PM
yall live in Philly?

13451649, I just said something to him. I was taking my trash out and
Posted by SuiteLady, Wed Jan-12-22 05:23 PM
he comes out with trash. He smiled and waved like normal and I said “Hey man! You blew all those leaves and trash in my yard,” he looked embarrassed and said “No I cleaned your walkway for you, you know the steps - you didn’t see it. I cleaned it for you” and I said “I was standing at the living room window.”

We were both walking to and from the dumpsters behind our properties so the conversation ended at that because we were both back at our property.
13451651, oof i bet he was waiting for you to say thank you
Posted by mista k5, Wed Jan-12-22 05:28 PM
“No I cleaned your walkway for you, you know the steps - you didn’t see it. I cleaned it for you” FOH
13451630, am i tripping or is my boss?
Posted by mista k5, Wed Jan-12-22 02:07 PM
we have an established workflow that clearly state he is responsible for certain things. this workflow is not being followed anymore and there was never any communication on what was to be done instead.

seems like he just decided to back off and see who would take on his tasks. in some cases cool, he was really just a middleman anyway. in other cases um what. you got two different departments both just waiting for direction or blaming each other for not taking on it.

is this an actual strategy that is done on purpose?
13451691, Sounds like him.
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Jan-13-22 11:39 AM
>we have an established workflow that clearly state he is
>responsible for certain things. this workflow is not being
>followed anymore and there was never any communication on what
>was to be done instead.
>
>seems like he just decided to back off and see who would take
>on his tasks. in some cases cool, he was really just a
>middleman anyway. in other cases um what. you got two
>different departments both just waiting for direction or
>blaming each other for not taking on it.
>
>is this an actual strategy that is done on purpose?

Probably not even a strategy. Just, you know, he's the boss and you're not, so he'll do what he wants, while you do what he says.

I'm betting that that's the ballpark you're in with this.

Of course, that's how I see management on the whole, of any kind, really. There are exceptions, and I have many friends- including my wife- in management positions, so I do seem certain things from their perspective.

But I think a large percentage of people in managerial positions tend to function this way, to varying degrees.
13451652, I got a whole section of family that's in a bad place.
Posted by tariqhu, Wed Jan-12-22 05:50 PM
they're all siblings of each other with kids, and grands. all my cousins.

the oldest brother didn't visit his sister when she was in the hospital. that sister is my age, but has had terrible health issues. 3 strokes, HBP, and diabetes. On dialysis 3-4 days a week.

anyway, she got covid last year and was in the hospital for days. he didn't even contact her. I basically had stopped talking to him well before then on some other shit. so her daughter cussed him out about it. that was the straw for her. he'd done enough selfish acts and she was fed up. so she gave him some words. he was more upset about how she delivered the message and I'm not even sure he got the actual reasoning for getting cuss out.

I talked to him today because his sister no longer wants to live, but wants her siblings and me to hang out with her more. he says he didn't go because he didn't want to see her like that. I told him nobody wants to see their people down, but your people need support in those times. also said he was being completely selfish by thinking about what he wants/doesn't want, while his immediate fam is possibly dying of covid.

asked him if he and the daughter talked since she gave him words. he said not about that or him not visiting his sister. hoping my talk with him today will help him see where he's wrong, but his history says I wasted my time. we'll see.

hoping my talk with him will push him forward, but I trust that it won't. he typicall
13451692, This resonates so much with me.
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Jan-13-22 11:48 AM
>anyway, she got covid last year and was in the hospital for
>days. he didn't even contact her. I basically had stopped
>talking to him well before then on some other shit. so her
>daughter cussed him out about it. that was the straw for her.
>he'd done enough selfish acts and she was fed up. so she gave
>him some words. he was more upset about how she delivered the
>message and I'm not even sure he got the actual reasoning for
>getting cuss out.

This right here. Such a deep sense of selfishness that his feelings are still all that really matters to him. Completely oblivious to the fact that his reaction is a perfect, shining display of the sort of selfishness that elicited her reaction to begin with.

I think people take that blood tie for granted, as though nothing they could do could ever get them exiled, because, hey, blood.

They don't realize that people do have a breaking point. And once that levee breaks, sometimes, what comes out isn't diplomatic or kind.

But it is, often enough, well and hard earned.

And what comes out is just raw, unfiltered truth.

And if they- he, in this case- had a tenth of an ounce of a fuck to give about them, he'd just take his medicine and accept it.

>I tlked to him today because his sister no longer wants to
>live, but wants her siblings and me to hang out with her more.
>he says he didn't go because he didn't want to see her like
>that. I told him nobody wants to see their people down, but
>your people need support in those times. also said he was
>being completely selfish by thinking about what he
>wants/doesn't want, while his immediate fam is possibly dying
>of covid.
>
>asked him if he and the daughter talked since she gave him
>words. he said not about that or him not visiting his sister.
>hoping my talk with him today will help him see where he's
>wrong, but his history says I wasted my time. we'll see.
>
>hoping my talk with him will push him forward, but I trust
>that it won't. he typicall

Hoping he'll wake the fuck up, for the sake of you and yours.

but you're most likely right.

That sort of selfishness is too often dyed in the wool.
13451699, I think it's a lost cause, but I wanted to give it a shot.
Posted by tariqhu, Thu Jan-13-22 12:45 PM
he's in his early 40's but is an old man in his ways. his ways of thinking are very old school and he's not a person that communicates.

my hope is that he reconciles with his sister. we'll see.
13451702, Oh no doubt.
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Jan-13-22 12:56 PM
>he's in his early 40's but is an old man in his ways. his
>ways of thinking are very old school and he's not a person
>that communicates.
>
>my hope is that he reconciles with his sister. we'll see.

I think one thing that gets lost in situations like these, is that the person who finally gives up, *finally* gave up.

Why'd the straw break the camel's back
Here's the secret
It's a million other straws beneath it- Mighty Mos Def

Most caring, empathetic, and compassionate people will make that effort.

Even when it all the signs indicate that it will be a fruitless endeavor.
13451694, this is a tough one and I can totally relate
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Jan-13-22 12:03 PM
and I’m not sure I blame anyone in these situations.

When my Dad was on his deathbed my cousin came to visit. Even spent the night.. then asked my wife for money when she left.

Family is wild.

Sometimes people just unplug because they dont want that drama.

I had a cousin pass away and her brother who was my closest cousin growing up didn’t show up to her funeral. He’s not right in the head.. so I just accept that it was for the best.

and my fam on both sides talks all type of trash, one side is straight to your face, the other behind your back.

and what is really crazy are the REAL stories about family that you finally hear once you are an adult.

Webay face: ohhh, so that’s why
13451700, yeah, finding out the whys gives wtf thoughts.
Posted by tariqhu, Thu Jan-13-22 12:48 PM
how did we get here vibes. I think for my folks, its the keep the peace perspective that prevails. it's sickening how what looks like peace is just covered trash.
13451697, got a first hand experience of the fuckery that is our covid situation.
Posted by PROMO, Thu Jan-13-22 12:29 PM
wife wakes up middle of the night yesterday to an email saying she was in close contact to someone who tested positive for covid.

this notification comes from an app run by the state DOH that uses your phones gps. so, automatically i question the accuracy, but i digress.

email says the close contact was 6 days ago. only place my wife been in the last 6 days for a duration long enough to be "exposed" is work, so there's that.

well, she has no symptoms nor does anyone in our house (which is 6 people), and it's been more than 5 days (the new guideline). that said, she still wants to get tested. can't find a test near us for literally a week. not only that but the only ones you can find are at drug stores cuz the DOH sites (where most of humanity would think to go, right?) are all closed right now...WHY? WHY ARE THEY CLOSED?

i dunno. shit is fucked up.

so, like, what's the point. ***IF*** she had it, by the time she gets tested, she's gonna be "over" it basically. 6 days to be notified (i realize this depends on when the person who has it finds out) + 7 days to get tested. it's like sort of too late by then, no?

her job said "hey, exposure was more than 5 days ago and you seem fine so come back."

we living in some fucked times man, i'll tell ya.
13451703, Going to be like this for weeks/months :(
Posted by handle, Thu Jan-13-22 01:08 PM
>the only ones you can find are at drug stores cuz the DOH
>sites (where most of humanity would think to go, right?) are
>all closed right now...WHY? WHY ARE THEY CLOSED?

Staff out sick with COVID is probably why. or people quit because they don't want to be handling sick people for $15 an hour.

>so, like, what's the point. ***IF*** she had it, by the time
>she gets tested, she's gonna be "over" it basically. 6 days to
>be notified (i realize this depends on when the person who has
>it finds out) + 7 days to get tested. it's like sort of too
>late by then, no?

The PCR tets will likely come back positive at 13 days. So you know if she had it, for peace of mind I guess?


>her job said "hey, exposure was more than 5 days ago and you
>seem fine so come back."
>
>we living in some fucked times man, i'll tell ya.

This is the most disease this country has had since I've been alive, and we are not doing a good job.

Hope everyone stays well in your house, I'm hearing stories like this from friends and coworkers now too.
13451731, hearing someone say HIPPA law is instant cringe
Posted by mista k5, Thu Jan-13-22 05:07 PM
and yes im sure they say it hippa instead of hipaa lol
13451853, I know it's Saturday
Posted by Krispee, Sat Jan-15-22 09:20 AM
But I couldn't sleep and I'm on my last day of working from home and I'm stressed out, I need to get this out so I can move forward with this dreadful day.

I was my mother's caretaker for over a year when she was ill. I lived with her and took care of her daily needs and with the help of my guy, we got her back to a relatively healthy state. She is now healthy enough to care for her own mother, who is now in the midst of Dementia. My mom shares the duties with her sisters and one of her brothers, each staying overnight with Grandma a couple days a week.

I was glad that I didn't have to be involved with that situation, because Grandma's dementia has made her quite mean and she can get verbally abusive and some rare times, physically abusive. My family is STRESSED OUT.

Yesterday, I get a call from my Mom. My Grandma's sister, who lives a few minutes from my Mom, was found by a neighbor wandering outside in the cold without shoes or a coat and has been talking to people who aren't there... early signs of dementia. Turns out the neighbor has been helping to care for her for quite some time and now it's gotten more serious that she went in and found my Great-Aunt's phonebook and started reaching out to any family she found listed. My mom was reaching out to me, asking me what should she do... UHHH WHY YOU ASKING ME?

I know why she's asking me... because she wants me to handle this situation. My Mom, my Aunts and Uncle do not want to take on this new burden of now caring for two people with dementia. They are all very self-centered and barely want to care for Grandma, so I know this Auntie situation is out of the question.

I barely have contact with my Great-Aunt. She has no children and she is widowed. We don't talk, we are not close and I haven't seen her since 2018, the last family reunion. I spent a couple summer weekends with her back when I was little girl, but that's it. WTF am I gonna do? There's so many things to figure out... who's her doctor, what meds is she on, has she been missing doses, how does she handle her finances, is she able to cook for herself, how does she get groceries, how involved is this neighbor, is she taking advantage of my Great-Aunt and her money, is she gonna be mean like Grandma, will she even let us into her house...

I told my Mom we will stop by and visit her today before I take her to Indiana for her shift at Grandma's house. Mom barely wants to do that.... I was talking to my guy, who helped me take care of my Mom and he straight up asked me, do you want to handle this or be like "fuck her", like your Mom and Aunts seem to feel? I don't wanna say fuck my Great-Aunt... but then again, I do. I don't feel the pull to step up and handle this like I did with my Mom, because... that's my Mother. My mom's situation was totally different and I am able to keep it all the way real and not hold my tongue with her, so I basically dragged her ass back to being healthy, whether she liked it or not.

I tossed and turned all night about this situation... I'm tired AF and I'm dreading to see what's going on in that house today.




13451873, Sending positive vibes your way. Is there a way to co-locate your
Posted by kfine, Sat Jan-15-22 06:01 PM
Great Aunt with your Grandmother, so that the current rotational arrangement that your Mom and her siblings have agreed to to care for your Grandmother can be adapted to include your Great Aunt? Like move them in together in one of the homes (whichever one might make sense re: proximity to your Mom and her siblings)?

Or are there reasons such a solution might be a non-starter (eg. unresolved personal issues with Aunt, paranoia, etc)?