Control is not acting on it when you see somehing you LIKE when you already have what you NEED or LOVE. That's the red flag.

Looking is just looking. Being tempted is another conversation. Looking at strangers in real life and being attracted is normal. To think that you are the only person they will ever be attracted to is setting yourself and that relationship up for failure.

The only red flag I see in this is why does it trigger you and what are you doing to work on that trigger. I mean if you want to date someone who doesn't look at people or their surroundings then date a blind person? LOL

If it's that much of an issue there needs to be worked done together to build that trust and be cogniscent of what triggers you and how its handled on both sides.