>
>>What I love about my friend's parties, is that we spend time
>>discussing and practicing requests, consent, denials,
>>negotiation etc in a closed "container" (meaning, by a
>certain
>>time, no one else can come in, and once you leave, you can't
>>re-enter)
>
>That right there, is GENIUS, and I'm shocked I never thought
>of it before. Totally stealing it.

please do!


>I've never understood this at some parties. No alcohol, no
>weed... I mean, they are lubricants (social) They can help.
>

the point is to not need any kind of social lubricant/help..to learn to exist in your natural state..confident, free, powerful...or nervous, anxious...whatever you are, you are perfect in that state. and in time, you'll get comfortable and more relaxed as you CONNECT to other humans who respect you exactly as you are.

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"But rest assured, in my luxurious house built on the backs of people darker than me, I am sipping fine scotch and scoffing at how stupid you are." - bshelly