That's what's actively happening right here, right now, in this room.

All the shame in here is being directed at Russ, for controlling his own image in a way that conflicts with what he and others in the room deem unacceptable to them.

And while I do understand the history you outlined, the fact is, this is not exclusive to Black men. Men, in America, on the whole, are routinely shamed for not adhering to traditional (ahem: white, colonial) standards of masculinity.

And on both accounts, Russ is being shamed, here in this room, right today, for not adhering to that.

THAT is what is being addressed.

And let's keep a hundred: The entire lane of the OP is shaming Russ for controlling his own image, because LStah doesn't like it, and because he thinks there's a separate agenda attached.

The OP implies that Russ, and other men who make similar fashion choices, aren't doing so as them simply looking the way they want to look, but are trying to cause others to "exist a certain way"- as though these choices are not and cannot be an expression of their true selves.

The entire post is based on one Black man shaming another Black man for adhering to his own preferences and choices.

But again: this is not at all exclusive to Black men. Not even close.

White men, Latino men, are also up in arms over this and any other supposedly feminine choices made by men in general.

The inescapable fact is that this is about men demanding adherence to outdated, narrow, and entirely arbitrary standards of gender norms from other men. And the OP absolutely shames Russ for failing to adhere to LStah's archaic, arbitrary standards of masculinity.