after men (and especially Black/African men), pointing out that the sartorial choice you think looks so emasculating can actually have the exact opposite effect and even activate said lust?

If you choose to limit (Black) masculinity to Victorian sensibilities that's your choice. You don't have to tho lol

Bc as others have also said: there's actually a far longer, richer, and totally normalized history across the globe of men wearing cloths around the waist/wrappers/sarongs/kilts/togas/tunics etc - or as you call them skirts and dresses. Men wearing pants/trousers is a relatively recent phenomenon with origins in Europe and Asia.

Not an opinion just facts!