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13441912, Should you talk about your ED with your SO? (Warning:Graphic)
Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Wed Dec-31-69 07:00 PM
And when I say ED I am not talking about Erectile dysfunction, I am talking about Explosive Diarrhea. I originally wrote it out in the post title, but I don't think people want to see that all day when looking at these boards.


Anyway, I ask this question because over time my answer has changed. I think when I was younger and newer into relationships, I would have said it was important for me to have a woman I could talk to about anything and wasn't such a "prude" that I couldn't talk about the fact that the chimichangas we eat gave me ED or anything else that crossed my mind. And I have definitely been around women who I thought were too prudish because they were unwilling to talk about certain subjects like sex, bathroom stuff, etc. In fact, I think I was impressed with girls who were frank talking about anything and everything.

Now, long time into a relationship, I think I have become more conscious about, well, closing the door when I go to the bathroom. I wish I was more of a mystery around certain things. Not that it has had a huge impact on my life, but its a little thing I would have done differently. I think I would have refined my earlier thinking, if I were giving advice to my sons about dating, find someone you can share anything with, but also don't share everything about yourself when you do find that person. Close the bathroom door when you go.


What do you think?

Poll question: Should you talk about your ED with your SO? (Warning:Graphic)

Poll result (5 votes)
Never (0 votes)Vote
Only in situations where medically necessary (1 votes)Vote
Not early in the relationship, but okay later in it. (4 votes)Vote
Sure, why not? (0 votes)Vote

  

13441915, lmao.. great topic. There is definitely a grace period for this stuff
Posted by legsdiamond, Mon Sep-13-21 11:17 AM
but once you live together I think you need to be open and honest about that shit (literally)

My ex in college.. we loved together and I don’t think she ever shat while I was home. I had no problem shitting and farting around her because I’ll be damned if I’m in pain while in my own crib.

My wife.. when we dated I remember when we finally admitted we were physically uncomfortable because we were holding onto farts or shits because we didnt want each other to hear our butts beat boxing.

13441963, So you out chere open door pooping in front of your wife?
Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Mon Sep-13-21 05:00 PM
I mean you can't keep up the grace period hiding stuff to the point of being physically uncomfortable, but it is real easy to get into a sibling type of relationship with your SO where you are ripping one in front of your SO without even thinking about it. That's what I am saying folks shouldn't do. Don't get THAT comfortable.


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13441950, If I’m sick, sure.
Posted by tariqhu, Mon Sep-13-21 03:27 PM
Otherwise maybe it comes up in convo somehow. We don’t generally fart in front of each other. Not really trying to keep mystery about any of it. Just think some of it as rude, regardless of how long we’ve been together.
13441962, the reason divorce is so high is because people hide farts
Posted by legsdiamond, Mon Sep-13-21 04:55 PM
Obviously I made that up..

but I think its wild when people share a bed and bathroom and hold their farts.
13441974, let it rage with the door open.
Posted by Ray_Snill, Mon Sep-13-21 08:40 PM
I heard a dude say that about his girlfriend one time. said it was an alpha boss move lol




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13441984, first time my wife let one rip I saw the joy and relief on her face
Posted by legsdiamond, Tue Sep-14-21 08:09 AM
no more hiding, holding.. struggling.

We all poop, fart and have exploding diarrhea..

why should we hide these acts from the one’s we love? Why do we have to wait until sickness to release the gases and liquids pressed on our bottoms?

We simply say “I have to drop it” or “uh ooh.. pity the fool” and the other person says “and that fool is me” and we laugh.. then come out and use an Ice Cube line or the old “dont know one go in their for 25 to 35 minutes”

13442027, Not hiding.
Posted by tariqhu, Tue Sep-14-21 01:15 PM
Whole household says when someone has to poop. If anyone is having gut issues, we’ll say but it’s not really big topic unless some is ill.

We joke about bathroom stuff too. Admittedly, farts are a hang up of mine.
13441964, she at least has to know what messes w/ my stomach
Posted by BrooklynWHAT, Mon Sep-13-21 05:06 PM
i'll spare her the gory details unless its a serious health issue. but i at least need her to know what causes a full system flush, so it can be avoided. i at least want to know that much about her because i like to cook.
13442012, no taking me out for ice cream…
Posted by Trinity444, Tue Sep-14-21 11:36 AM
if it’s a sleepover I’m out before the sun is up. I can’t dump off with a guy around.
13442013, haha..
Posted by legsdiamond, Tue Sep-14-21 11:55 AM
I remember a woman on here getting mad when she said she shuts on first dates due to her diet.

I was like “oh, you gonna stay single forever.. lol”

but he once we have sex I think you should be able to take a dump withiut being judged. I dont seen all you got and made you make that ugly face so wtf.. just shit and wash that azz so we can get one in before the day begins