because, after understanding the subject and how people react to things, I've learned that the pendulum can be swung the other way and then work has to be done to reach an optimal mid point.

if at first you have soft boundaries but then you realize you don't want to be stepped on, taken advantage of, or hurt then you do the opposite.

the opposite would be rigid boundaries which pose a counterintuitive danger. Being overly vigilant and protective means missing out on connecting with people, being a risk for isolation, and alienating others. Vulnerability and sharing is how humans bond, if you can't do that then you're not going to go far.

It's a give and take balance that takes patience and work to develop if you were not raised in a home that allowed development of healthy boundaries