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13429606, My pops gave me the roadmap I am raising my boys with.
Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Fri Apr-09-21 11:55 AM
I never seen my dad play a sport. Never threw a football with me and I had to learn basketball on my own.

I never seen my dad wear jeans or sneakers until much later in life. Like in his 60s.

I've seen him cry a million times. In public. He could be at church and sharing a story and be moved to tears.

And yet he was always the coolest, smartest, baddest mofo I have ever met.


Man loved clothes, cars, music, knowledge and people. Wasn't a subject matter he couldn't speak on. Was always reading some huge biography. Had subscriptions to GQ, Esquire, New Yorker and Vanity Fair when no one within 3 zip codes were reading those type of magazine. Was more charming than anyone I've ever met. Could talk to anyone from the brothers on the corner to my college professors.

I've never seen my dad cower or bow his head to white folks. Seen him curse out everyone from cops to judges (even was held in contempt and put in jail for telling a judge off).


I mean look at this moutha.

https://ibb.co/F39DqW7


So I say all this to say I've seen so many brothers struggle with the idea of what it means to be a man and conform to societal standards whether its street toughness, or bagging chicks or even making money but I really neer felt those pressures because my dad was never that type of man but was still "The Man" in my eyes.


My pop turns 80 next week and is in a home suffering from dementia so forgive a brother for bragging, that's headspace I'm at in the moment.



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