response written in a provocative manner intentionally.

I don't think I judge parenting on this point but its not in my bag of tricks.

me and wife will snatch his ass up and hold him if he's acting like a monkey on acid or snatch him up and plant him in a chair for time out if hes reeeeeeally playing like he doesnt hear us.

I think it's down to what the kid responds to and what drives the kid. The oldest wouldn't respond to a spanking or a pop appropriately...I think. The youngest, man, who even knows how his brain works, hes kind of an alien to be honest.