And you're never able to substantiate those dumb assertions with facts or sound logic.

If her assumptions were off base, you *could* choose to expound in a way that clarifies your meaning and intent. We all say shit flippantly from time to time that could stand a little clarification in order to complete a thought that sounded one way at first, but becomes something different once clarification is given.

The problem you have is, when you do expound, you tend to double down on everything that was wrong in your initial statement.