I may come across brash and offensive to many men on this board. Only because I see and hear what the wives, girlfriends and daughters say.

I even talked to divorced wives of men of I have dated. There are certain habits that men have picked up thinking they are being good partners but really they become overly dependent on the wife, ESPECIALLY successful black women.

I love black men, pray for black families and hope that we do better. But there are many of us who are flying by the seat of our pants in the relationship arena.

Every relationship I know that has lasted more than 20 years has a solid NETWORK of people, of both sexes for support.