my old roommate gets really down when he'd see couples out doing couple shit. "man he's got it figured out. went to school, got a hot girl, owns a home, drives a nice car, has a nice job. what a life. i don't have any of that" and on the one hand i get it*. because this is what we've been taught a successful man is from day one. he's very into trying to live up to an old idea of manhood vs just being comfortable in his own convictions and ambitions