Because you'd be " trying to invalidate the experiences of harmed people while telling them the level of hurt you deem acceptable."


>"I understand. however, intersectionality means women have to
>deal with fighting the battles of race and gender at once,
>they're more than entitled to their grief.



Intersectionality correctly applied means that you'd acknowledge that Black men deal with gendered racism as well. This is simply ignored due to the fact that we've come to think of "gender" as meaning female. Black+female experiences a unique targeting by white supremacist patriarchy, yet what we fail to acknowledge is that Black+male does too.



>also when women are
>speaking out, "what about men?" is poor timing and the
>intraracial equivalent of All Lives Matter"


This is really interesting, because I said nothing about women. I just asked what if you listened to Black men speaking about their experience. This idea that Black men are invalidating Black women simply by sharing their experience is just plain dangerous at this point. Did realize you created that scenario?