You could say there are valid critiques of Black women.
You could subsequently name a list of unfavorable actions committed by the lowest common denominators among them.
Then you could just say that those who are upset about it are simply "clinging to a binary idea of victimhood instead of really understanding where extreme Black men are coming from."
That's not only a counter-productive way to have a conversation, but also unfair to whichever group you apply it to.