You certainly lack an understanding of irony, as evinced by your post about people arguing on the boards.

But back to nuance, I'm not critiquing her grief, in fact I said she has every right to feel this way and say these things.

I made an objective observation about honoring one's memory.

If I die tomorrow and people wanna go do crack and have sex with hookers in my memory, that's cool, if that's how you grieve. But don't pretend you did it in my honor because that isn't indicative of how I lived my life.