its not just "us" who does it. its everywhere, as it should be

Why, we even do it on okayplayer. a message board. where people discuss and critique culture.

you're even doing it right now. critiquing the culture of critiquing culture!

its a good practice. builds character.


Literally noone is going to lose their jobs and be shunned because their wife is light skinned. there will be no stoning. black women are just critiquing a pattern of valuing lightness (that has existed for a smooth 80+ years, mind you) and pushing black men to interrogate their biases.

you will be ok, i hope? let's breathe.