But yeah, she can date whoever. As can I.

There's no indication that she has any interest in rebuilding our marital relationship, which means I have no interest in trying to find solutions to make that happen, so there's no point in holding either of us hostage.

But that also means there's no reason to disrupt our family stability and lower our overall quality of life, all because we can't find a way to have a fulfilling marital relationship.

The only reason to do that would pride and ego.