... appropriate way to frame it. It's not an *inherently* offensive question IMO, if framed correctly. But naturally I think we're all a little defensive of our parents, even if we can and do internally acknowledge their imperfections.


>I have similar friends...we (parents) grew up together.
>It’s almost like we’re family so I’m not afraid of
>setting them off, lol. I’d go as far as saying, it would be
>easier to have an uncomfortable convo with them. it might be
>different from white folk tho. I think it depends on how you
>frame your questions. You seem to do a good job at winning
>folks over...

Wow - that's a really nice thing to say - I appreciate that, and it means a lot coming from you !