That's definitely not based on her choice... especially when the next part is...
I want to say: “Do you know how hurtful that is to somebody who identifies so strongly with half of who she is?” … When people don’t know “what” you are, you get your heart broken daily.

Earlier she said...
Today I feel guilty, knowing that because of the way our genes tumbled out, Kidada had to go through pain I didn’t have to endure. Loving her so much, I’m sad that I’ll never share that experience with her.



She's definitely not speaking like someone who made a choice. In fact, she's explicitly saying she *didn't* have a choice.