With some bouts of depression sprinkled in. She's been medicated since her teen years.

When we first started dating, I (a person fortunate as fuck to have never needed this type of medication or treatment in my life) was always bugging her about depending on meds, and asking her to try to find other more wholistic forms of treatment for her condition(s).

Ignorant as fuck on my part. I learned pretty quickly how serious this/these disease(s)/conditions are and as a result could not agree with you more about the above. The meds for anxiety, depression, PTSD, and all mental illnesses like them are 100% like any other disease or condition we may have as humans. It's about finding the right med balance like you said. And once my wife found hers (semi-recently actually) she's never been happier or more stress-free.