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I may be Killing her softly, from a Broken Heart

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13362192, I may be Killing her softly, from a Broken Heart
Posted by Crisco, Wed Dec-31-69 07:00 PM

Last year I was putting this girl I was dating thru it. Half ass boyfriend taking advantage of her financially all around jerk. Tried to break up with her. She got really sick and had a heart attack. had to get stints put in. She stayed with me. I don't know why.

This year I'm still a jerk but this chick loves me unconditionally. Tried to tell her to let me go numerous times this year. Finally break up with her a few Fridays ago. She has another heart attack.

She is in the hospital having Open heart surgery as I am typing this. I'm praying she pulls thru. She was born with some health issues the Bad artery issue came to light last year. She has a 14 year old daughter. I don't want to be responsible for taking her mom away :-(

I'm thinking about breaking up with her for good when she comes to of the hospital. More so going ghost with one last good bye text.

Poll question: I may be Killing her softly, from a Broken Heart

Poll result (3 votes)
Breakup with her immediately after surgery	(1 votes)	Vote
Breakup with her after she has recovered and gone home	(1 votes)	Vote
Don't breakup with her hang in till she dumps me	(0 votes)	Vote
Don't break up with her and keep being a narcissitic jerk	(0 votes)	Vote
Other	(1 votes)	Vote

13362193, WoW
Posted by eclipsedInI, Wed Jan-15-20 09:27 AM

just

WoW

13362224, Wow indeed any suggestions
Posted by Crisco, Wed Jan-15-20 10:38 AM

I'm obviously not invested emotionally like she is with me.
But feel like if I break up with this chick she could literally die from another heart attack.

13362205, Damn, man.
Posted by flipnile, Wed Jan-15-20 09:54 AM

13362227, Ive told her I think I'm causing her heart issues
Posted by Crisco, Wed Jan-15-20 10:40 AM

Well the attacks I mean. She says it's not me that all couples go thru things. But man the timing has been spot on both times.

I declare it's over, Sick then Heart attack twice a year apart.

13362222, Suregery going well according to her mom text
Posted by Crisco, Wed Jan-15-20 10:37 AM

3 more hours to go. This is nerve racking.

13362223, Bruh...
Posted by legsdiamond, Wed Jan-15-20 10:37 AM

13362229, Thinking Imma ghost her once she fully recovers
Posted by Crisco, Wed Jan-15-20 10:42 AM

Or at least leaves the hospital. Then she has 2 to 3 months actual recovery.

Otherwise, I'm the type of dude that will ride that train (Financial benefits) till the wheels fall off. And I even have to admit that aint right.

At some point he gotta have morals right?
How selfish can a man be.

13362234, Leave now.
Posted by legsdiamond, Wed Jan-15-20 11:10 AM

Get some help bruh...

13362243, Help for what? I'm good
Posted by Crisco, Wed Jan-15-20 11:38 AM

What are you tryna say? LOL

All my chicks cater to me.
That's how I gets down.

13362278, he's saying don't this shit get old?
Posted by tariqhu, Wed Jan-15-20 12:43 PM

how you stay finding yourself in these situations?

you getting text from her mom? that means you're in too deep to be playing these games.

this can't be good for your own health, physically or mentally, let alone hers.

13362280, Yeah it does get old actually
Posted by Crisco, Wed Jan-15-20 12:44 PM

Which is why I've been tryna drop her for over a year.
Guess I need to just do it and stop the excuses.

13362338, Right? Every so often my boy and I reminisce about
Posted by legsdiamond, Wed Jan-15-20 03:06 PM

the trife days...

This dude talking about this shit in 2020.

Gotta be a better way.

13362341, exactly.
Posted by tariqhu, Wed Jan-15-20 03:12 PM

I wouldn't think it be fun anymore. if this was a chick posting, folks would hollering all types of insecure.

13362607, Crisco; bringing you true Trife since since May 21st 2003
Posted by FLUIDJ, Thu Jan-16-20 10:56 PM

but...
dude stay On Brand...don't know why y'all be trying to change him lol....

13362242, Bruh
Posted by Boogiedwn, Wed Jan-15-20 11:30 AM

Anything but this

Yeah dead the relationship and don't look back

13362250, Indeed. A brother may need to settledown. This is a sign
Posted by Crisco, Wed Jan-15-20 11:50 AM

>Anything but this
>
>Yeah dead the relationship and don't look back

13362255, I voted (Other) btw: POS of the Year Award
Posted by eclipsedInI, Wed Jan-15-20 11:53 AM

13362279, Thanks for your input
Posted by Crisco, Wed Jan-15-20 12:43 PM

smh

13362282, She is out of surgery and doing great
Posted by Crisco, Wed Jan-15-20 12:47 PM

Well as good as you can be after Open heart surgery.

I think she knows what's coming once she heals.
She kept reinforcing that we are good together
last night when I visited her in the hospital.

I kept giving her the sure we are good reply.
Which we all know means we aint good.

Ugh this sucks.

13362286, You've been low-key leadin her on smh
Posted by rdhull, Wed Jan-15-20 12:53 PM

13362487, Low-key?
Posted by soulpsychodelicyde, Thu Jan-16-20 11:37 AM

13362309, You're still doing this? smdh.
Posted by afrogirl_lost, Wed Jan-15-20 01:34 PM

I hope she pulls through. Seriously though, you should get a therapist so that you can stop hurting people.

13362327, "Y'all wonder why we hate men..." - Ms. Hill
Posted by Hot_Damali, Wed Jan-15-20 02:40 PM

13362429, Think she´d cosign a 2021 whip?
Posted by isaaaa, Wed Jan-15-20 09:41 PM

Anti-gentrification, cheap alcohol & trying to look pretty in our twilight posting years (c) Big Reg

¨Your mother is Colin Powell¨ - Lurkmode

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13362462, I had a neighbor who lost all muscle functions and couldn’t talk
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Jan-16-20 10:07 AM

It’s a rare ass disease and he had to relearn how to talk and walk.

Somehow he started dating a friend of my wife after his rehab.

She broke up with him and he had another relapse. She didn’t stick around for him to get well.

I don’t know if a person actually gets sick intentionally when they get dumped but my point is leave now.

Let her heal without your ass.

13362481, Good Points. But I feel bad leaving her while she is healing
Posted by Crisco, Thu Jan-16-20 11:04 AM

Even though I have no intention on continuing this relationship.

So maybe I should just stop contacting her now.

13362491, Best to do it while she has tons of support and nurses around
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Jan-16-20 11:43 AM

13362482, Suregery was a success. She is doing well
Posted by Crisco, Thu Jan-16-20 11:05 AM

Now She needs to do well without me in her life.

I am no good for her health or her mental.

13362494, lol. you ain’t shit...
Posted by Trinity444, Thu Jan-16-20 11:54 AM

I hate the, “I tried to tell you” argument.