13342551, The only thing that you can do is just be supportive...
Posted by hip bopper, Fri Aug-09-19 09:13 AM
>So the past month since the boards took a break, my whole
>life has been consumed by my Mom's cancer diagnoses.
>
>Founds out on June 26th, that her Colon cancer seemed to had
>spread to her lungs and other pars of the intestines.
>
>July 14th, we take her to the ER due to a mother of a
>headache, turns out to be a brain tumor. She had to stay in
>the hospital to have tests done and to speak with a
>neurosurgeon. All the focus shifted to the brain. She's
>scheduled for surgery on the 14th of Aug.
>
>She's been home since the 23rd and the poor thing is miserable
>from the pain in her head.
>
>I've hadn't dealt with anything like this before. The 1st
>significant person in my life to pass away was my Grandmom and
>that was 2 years ago.
>
>I feel a mixture discouragement, numbness, and selfishness. I
>have never been good at multitasking, so I focus on how I feel
>and dwell, then move on. But haven't been, moving on. I keep
>dwelling on me being upset at my mom possibly dying. I'm
>having hard time focusing on the positives. I get so mad at
>myself about that.
>
>I stopped excising, eating shit food, ignoring duties at work,
>and also arguing with my wife. (that will be another post, cuz
>man did she piss me off).
>
>my mom isn't dead yet, I know that. I can't help but think
>about it and it just putting me down. Any insight?
>
One thing that you have to do is maintain healthy eating practices and keep to a certain degree. Been there with my mom (not cancer but congestive heart failure). My baby sister is currently dealing with tumors on the brain, and the old man has been on dialysis for the past 6 years and had issues with cancer as well. The noise that your old lady is giving you do your best to tune out. My marriage took a significant hit when my mom passed from congestive heart failure (which was already on the rocks). Whatever is going to happen in terms of life or death we are not in control of that, but you can control yourself and your emotions. Do your level best to control these things during this time that your mother is ill.
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