A. Work on yourself
B. Get away from the negative energy (unfortunately, the S.O.)


I agree, trying to control other people is a futile effort, which is why I'm the "leave her" guy. I've been in the same situation a few times, and in the end I realized that I felt better alone to work on myself rather than in a relationship that put a dark cloud over my head *that I wasn't in control of*

The feeling of not trusting your S.O. truly sucks, and is something that I would not put up with for any length of time (anymore). One of the biggest problems is the self-doubt that it causes because you feel one way, think another, while other people are telling you that you are crazy. Erodes self-confidence and trust.

But yeah, trying to control other people is a futile effort. Directing anger at the other guy is a waste of energy as well.