after years of segmenting our platonic relationship from her actual happy marriage, husband was a nice guy, she started complaining about him. especially at happy hours and out of the office events. i'd always pretended not to hear, or i'd change the topic. soon she started hinting at a separation. one night out, she invited me over to her apt, not the house she shared with her husband. i was also having similar relationship problems at the time. as much as i wanted to go i didn't, but knew after that if we'd have continued we'd be fucking and the friendship would be over. we haven't had a significant conversation since that night...years ago, except social media pleasantries, we also dont work together anymore.