First, the idea that neither party cares about them is a matter for debate
Second, that care is important isn’t worth discussing because assigning emotions to entities is dumb
Third, one party actively and directly makes those items worse, actively and directly
Fourth, if the items are core to your well being then they’re non negotiable
Lastly, if the items are core to your well being and one party actively and directly makes them worse then you need to be invested in seeing them lose

That any of this is up for debate is more reflective of what threatens and individual more so than what one cares about