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Topic subjectWhat’s the best way to deal with a person that outshines you
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13304883, What’s the best way to deal with a person that outshines you
Posted by godleeluv, Sat Jan-05-19 01:53 PM
In the workplace?

I work in sales and have been at my job for a while. I also work part time and have kids and shit. But there is another rep that works full time and really tech savvy and people tend to gravitate to her over me. It makes me upset at times and I’m trying to figure out how to just focus on myself and not worry about what other people are doing. My money is right so I have no idea why I feel this way sometimes. Maybe because I know that she loves to outshine everyone. No one else seems to care tho. Lol
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13304884, she does it FT and you do it PT. different levels of commitment.
Posted by kingjerm78, Sat Jan-05-19 01:59 PM
13304906, True. And I do more than half of what she does
Posted by godleeluv, Sat Jan-05-19 07:00 PM
But I hate being there and a customer comes in and I’m like how can I help you and they say we are here to see her. So I’m like cool. Then the next customer comes in and I’m like how can I help u and they say I’m here to see her so I’m like cool. So I start pulling up my list of be backs to call. Then another person comes in and I’m like how can I help and they say are you her? 😕. I’m not mad at her. I really think she is dope. It just makes me wonder why am I here?
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13304892, When you can't beat them, form an alliance with them.
Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Sat Jan-05-19 03:01 PM

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"
13304907, I tried and I can. But I also see she likes to outshine folks
Posted by godleeluv, Sat Jan-05-19 07:03 PM
And she has an advantage. Number one she is full time. She is younger and fresher to the game and she knows how to do shit I can’t do. Everyone relies on her for info and she has an inside hustle. I can’t beat that. But my face. My face everyone it’s my turn to go up and the person says I only want to deal with her crushes me. I’ve been there fifty eleven years. So I guess that’s why. Maybe it’s time to move on or maybe it’s time to take notes. Or both.
... "A Beautiful Struggle"
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13304913, this about sums it up.
Posted by tariqhu, Sat Jan-05-19 08:09 PM
she's newer. still proving herself. you careless than she does.

time for you to get a new gig and get some new motivation.
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Posted by Mynoriti, Sat Jan-05-19 07:56 PM
13305390, https://i.gifer.com/49X1.gif
Posted by PG, Tue Jan-08-19 01:25 PM
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good lord this poast got grim quick lol.
13304915, Beat them. Joining them is overrated
Posted by BrooklynWHAT, Sat Jan-05-19 09:35 PM
13304926, Step your game up or admit defeat.
Posted by legsdiamond, Sun Jan-06-19 08:41 AM
13304931, Lol @ the post sig combo
Posted by Cenario, Sun Jan-06-19 10:31 AM
13304940, I took that shit personally too. Lol
Posted by godleeluv, Sun Jan-06-19 11:26 AM

... "A Beautiful Struggle"
https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock
Www.reverbnation.com/jamela

MELa
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13304944, !!!
Posted by SooperEgo, Sun Jan-06-19 01:08 PM
13304955, That shit hurt.
Posted by godleeluv, Sun Jan-06-19 02:30 PM

... "A Beautiful Struggle"
https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock
Www.reverbnation.com/jamela

MELa
Musically.Entertaining.Lyrically.Alluring.
13304945, you cant sabotage her or frame her for some shit?
Posted by Reeq, Sun Jan-06-19 01:27 PM
you better get your head in the damn game.

this your 1st time dealing with competition in the workplace?
13304953, Naw it’s not that serious
Posted by godleeluv, Sun Jan-06-19 02:29 PM
And no. There is competition monthly. Each month we begin at zero and work our way to the top. However customers that usually come to me will work with her instead now. Unless she isn’t there. Lol. Unloyal asses. 🥺
... "A Beautiful Struggle"
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Www.reverbnation.com/jamela

MELa
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13304951, study her technique...
Posted by Trinity444, Sun Jan-06-19 01:55 PM
13304954, Been doing that recently
Posted by godleeluv, Sun Jan-06-19 02:30 PM
The girl is good.
... "A Beautiful Struggle"
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13305466, Learn all you can from her...
Posted by TR808, Tue Jan-08-19 05:10 PM
Become her best buddy (at least at work).

Eventually you will get your chance to shine. If that dont work you can always go Cobra Kai and SWEEP THE LEG!!!

13304956, ego is a helluva drug
Posted by tomjohn29, Sun Jan-06-19 02:36 PM
hard thing about it most times...the person is doing what they do because thats who they are
13304960, Agreed.
Posted by godleeluv, Sun Jan-06-19 03:47 PM
She likes to shine. Ima let her shine.

Can’t be a hater.
... "A Beautiful Struggle"
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13304961, Support them, work with them and learn
Posted by justin_scott, Sun Jan-06-19 03:54 PM
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13304969, That sounds perfect
Posted by godleeluv, Sun Jan-06-19 06:33 PM

... "A Beautiful Struggle"
https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock
Www.reverbnation.com/jamela

MELa
Musically.Entertaining.Lyrically.Alluring.
13304983, Don't tie your self worth to a job/person/place
Posted by AFRICAN, Mon Jan-07-19 03:40 AM
It's never worth it.
13305020, Maybe time for a new job?
Posted by flipnile, Mon Jan-07-19 10:54 AM
13305382, maybe she DOESNT love to outshine everyone
Posted by darrylclark, Tue Jan-08-19 01:06 PM
My last job, I came in about 6 months after the last new employee, A. A is super mart and quick on her feet and I admire her about that.

The "lead" was older and on her way out the door. A was destined to replace her as "lead."

Mind you, I put lead in quotations bc its not a real position, that person is just the 'go-to' for other departments and usually represents the department in interdepartmental meetings.

I don't consider myself super smart, but, I am a hard worker.

After the "lead" retires, maybe 6 months after I arrive. I kind of floated to the top. Whole time, A and I have a cool relationship, we joke, we talk about our kids, etc.

After I become "lead", A no longer speaks to me. I leave, become a consultant and hired back to same department as a consultant, first thing A does is file complaints that I am over-stepping my authority as a consultant...mind you, I haven't even really began.

Moral of the story, you have to get out of your head. She may not be the person or have the intent you believe. If your job is not threatened by your co-worker, just stay the course, keep doing you.

Bonus: I've been gone maybe like 6 months, A still isn't "lead."
13305392, There's some real go getter over achiever types at my job
Posted by sectachrome86, Tue Jan-08-19 01:33 PM
Sometimes they make me feel inadequate but most of the time I just say good for you. I don't want to do all that and I'm fine with it. As long as the people that matter keep telling me I'm doing a good job I don't give a shit what other people do. My brand is being the anti "look at me" person. Some people notice that and respect me more because of it. The people that don't can get fucked. Just do you.
13305469, RE: There's some real go getter over achiever types at my job
Posted by BlakStaar, Tue Jan-08-19 05:25 PM
This. 100 %.

I'm not interested in the rat race. As long as I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing and management is happy, I'm good.
13305406, I worked at a small print shop in Philly
Posted by legsdiamond, Tue Jan-08-19 02:07 PM
I was used to a faster pace so dudes were mad when I was getting shit done.

Needless to say they moved on to different gigs and I took over running the shop.

Also got raises every few months because I had that place popping.
13305468, are you a hater?
Posted by double negative, Tue Jan-08-19 05:24 PM
I mean this in a real way.

from your post it seems like everything is ok. you're not under the threat of losing your job, you still have a job and you're able to pay bills...sounds like everything is good but you're worried about what that other person is doing and its affecting you.

Educate yourself. Ask yourself how to be the best you. If you tried to do what that other person is doing you will find yourself unhappy and at risk for failure because you will be living their life and not your own.

Tap into that growth mindset.
13305470, Someone has to be better. Once you own it, the more you can get better
Posted by Heinz, Tue Jan-08-19 05:32 PM
If you are constantly worrying about her outshining you now you will never get past it in the way you need to better yourself

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