>Two facts are that he is long long time friend and he has
>some mental problems that aren't caused by moral failings or a
>character defect but are biologically determined.
>
>*But yeah even with all that he might ALSO just be a loser.*
>
>My other friend (dude who I let stay here for months)
>certainly turned out to be a loser. He wasn't in the 90's and
>the 00's. But in the '10s ad '20s he certainly went that
>route.
>
>Let's hope for their sakes they get "second acts." I can't
>help with that at all - that's outside of my power.
>
>There's something in me that wants to help them solve their
>problems - and clearly they aren't willing to have that happen
>:(
>
>I think what I'm worried about is is that I could turn into a
>loser too - and a lot could be circumstance.
>
>I mean if I lost my job or I was sued for some reason (car
>accident???) I could eat through all my savings pretty quickly
>and there's NOTHING in American to help me. I could be on the
>streets if things went bad.
>
>In 2007-2008 when I had trouble getting a job my mother helped
>me through it until I did find a job, but I was also
>willing/capable to take the help.
>
>And in 1995 when I was in trouble I took a loan of about $800
>from a friend that really saved my bacon. (I paid him back a
>little at a time - but I paid him as soon as I could and kept
>the line of communication open the entire time.)
>
>From 1988-1995 I was DEFINTELY a loser.
>
>But people have to be willing to take help and even then it's
>not my responsibility to save them.
>
>Maybe this is some sort of modified "Captain Save a Hoe"
>scenario??