That the logic is "well that's why you don't go to random niggas' cribs cause you might get sexually assaulted, and that's the norm" doesn't help ANYBODY, nor should it be the norm.

If she WERE interested sexually, and up to a line, then 1. it should be ok for her to voice that, 2. she needs to voice it, and 3. she should not have to accept violation because *shrugs* she should know better.

I think the lesson is for everybody to do better, from a societal perspective.