Lol @ following up the LAST TIME IN LOVE post with this here, but I'm curious

I met a chick at an afterparty at my (temporary) place on Sat, we're about 10-12 people and she comes through with a mutual (girl)friend of ours

Whole night was cool, everybody's drinking on the balcony, doin a lil bit of c*ke etc etc, and the party starts dying out around 9 in the morning. Now mind you, I'm just chilling with everybody this whole time, nothing going on in terms of trying to hook up but I noticed throughout the night this chick is pretty cool, plays all the cool songs and we're all vibin

Around 10 she had left with another (girl)friend of mine, some people still drinking at my place & some are sleepin, I'm not ready to go to sleep and the sun's blazin so I hit my friend up and asks her (and HER) to go swimming. So the 3 of us meet up, get a citybike each and ride down to the beach. Now this is where I think I slipped, lmao. At the beach I take a pic of these girls for my Snap, and this chick's looking fuckin amazing!!!! All 3 of us go for a swim, lay in the sun for a min, still pretty early sunday morning so its not really poppin at the beach yet, we go get coffee after blabla, and around 12 or so the 3 of us split up and I go home to sleep.

Damn sorry LETS KEEP THIS SHIT SHORT, next day I'm like HEY that was a good ass time, and she kinda responds with the whole «I'm not interested starter pack» like: https://pics.me.me/the-im-not-interested-starter-pack-maybe-hahah-aw-iiice-24189428.png

SO anyway, that obviously sucks but its still early in the summer and whateva whateva, other girls and whatnot. LET IT BE KNOWN I'm not really one to start crushing quik or nathin, but that whole morning + that pic (lawrdd) sorta had me feelin some kinda way real fast

Now before y'all clown the shit outta me, I'm just curious for the sake of poastin:

When you meet someone you kinda really feelin like that and you sorta get curved off the bat, do you KIM asap or do you take 2 days off to simp before you're back? Or you go to war with the curve?

This ^^^^ might not be a good example tho, I rarely shoot my shot forreal either, just sorta really felt like this girl was something SPECIAL. Or maybe it was just that booty on the beach


EDIT: Feel free to clown the shit outta this cos I know this is some simp shit, but I'm actually curious what peoples' post-curve regimes are

Bless and happy summer OKP

give it about 7 days and hit her up again real light hearted and if she responds favorably keep at it. If not hard pass

I honestly feel like it was all good up until the BOTB

So yeah

U make sense, sir

>At the beach I take a pic of these girls for my Snap, and this chick's looking fuckin amazing!!!!

>but that whole morning + that pic (lawrdd)

Had I posted that shit here and everybody's starts going in about how she's looking fine or whatever that'd have hurt my cause

But sure lol I might post in a min, we off that chick now dooooe

There's nothing to clown you for. Nothing simp about it because everyone has to develop. Even if you were a simp so what, you human and were interested so there's nothing to clown you over. You received an unfavorable outcome due to your actions and you got better in time. Don't let none of these posts from anyone on here gas you as someone has rejected everyone on OKP at some point. It could be in first grade but they got the heisman from someone at some point.

I take the Peyton Manning Tom Brady approach to it. Everyone throws an interception and has a bad run of games. Eventually they get it right and realize it's not the other person's fault but theirs. They hit the gym harder, they study film, they do yoga, they go swimming, go on spirit walks, do anything to get better. Eventually they get it right. If I get rejected I go study the tapes and develop some more.

I wasn't a simp, all I did was slide very casually into the DMs and instantly felt the struggle

I'm just sayin this post is kinda simp

But yeah the Peyton Manning is good haha

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>I wasn't a simp, all I did was slide very casually into the
>DMs and instantly felt the struggle
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=se7VOCYxuS0&index=1&list=PLfv8hhuTqJGZdUrqKThH3XZ5bjxCum9KN

We Americans gotta stop shaming. Who don't slide into DMs besides me? Everyone comes through with a timely DM holla so people need to stop shaming people for courting. Back in the day you'd go up and holla but people at work in offices and it's easier to get the holla in via a fake twitter account during a bathroom break.

but I guess it works. I dont know anything about that DM biz

and go upload that picture real quick so we can make an educated response to assist you appropriately...

That pic is the only thing that matters
for this post right now.

but the next time you hang out with those friends and you know she will be there make sure you have a shorty on your arm. Sometimes women don't want a guy until they see that someone else wants them.

I never dealt with rejection well growing up so I played the shy guy roll. That shit worked well tho cause I was that nigga. I'm joking but not really.

Then I met a nigga in college who was on that AI, Kobe steez. Always open it creating their shot even when they were 90 ft from the rim.

Keep shooting bruh

Convincing someone to like you doesn't seem to work out too well. Plus, there are other women out there that would probably love your attention. Go find them.

Call it whatever, but I treat dating like business. I'm not gonna put in one resume then wait to hear back, I'm gonna keep the search up until I find something solid.

It probably seemed extra thirsty that you contacted her immediately after that night. You just hung with her until noon the day before, walk it off a little bit, and feel the situation out next time you see her.

and how much did she do?

Lol it wasn't THAT much, but it was some... Like small lines but close intervals for like 4 hours from like 4-5 and up until 9 o clock

I dont even mess with it like that, maybe once every 6 months

That artificial confidence, loud talking + angry comedown makes for a combo that I can't rock with.

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Especially in your scenario I'd just take the L and look towards the next one. If it's a friend of a friend, maybe you'll get another chance to make an impression. But don't waste time dwelling on it or counting on that.

I also look at the early-curve (giving or receiving) as a time-saver. At least you didn't get curved after 4 dates and no hit. You shot early. Fuck it, next shot

Blame it on the B.O.T.B.

but I would rather get it up front than have my time wasted.

Lol true, its a long hot summer anyway: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1CAzwewVjZ0

I would take one rejection and project it into the next opportunity. which made me not even try the next chick.

but then I grew up. stopped taking it personally and the clouds opened up lol.

Ran into a woman at my usual lunch spot a year and change after we met at the same spot. The first meet up convo went well. Same field. Similar age. Seemingly similar values. At the end of it I asked if she had a man. She said yeah. Told her that was a shame...I was about to ask you out. She looked slightly offended and surprised. Lol.

Fastword we run into each other again...convo is good. She's flirting. Body language highly inviting. I ask her out. We go on 3 dates...kissed in the car park at the end of the third. In my head I'm in there....I try to set up the fourth....she tells me she doesn't " think it makes sense since she doesn't see this going anywhere romantically". I said. Cool. Understood.

For a few minutes I had so many questions. Lol. Stopped the mental chatted...Chalked it up to the game and kept it moving. Deleted her contacts
People have reasons for doing what they do...it's none of my business really. Time and energy saved.

Looking back now...it wouldn't have worked.

this whole "ghosting" thing people are doing is remarkable.

folks too chickenshit to say, "sorry, it ain't gonna work out" after 5 or 6 dates?

>folks too chickenshit to say, "sorry, it ain't gonna work out"
>after 5 or 6 dates?

Women used to stop answering my calls early in the process, like afte date #1, a phone call or two or even from the beginning (why give me the number tho?)

there's a gazillion commitment-phobes out there too.

myself, i was a dating this girl about 4 years ago... got to about the 5th date when i started to realize she was the needling type who liked to start arguments for no reason. was a little...nutty.

i picked up the phone, made the call and told her that i was moving on. she ain't like it and kinda hung up on me early. i kept it moving... integrity unscathed.

I try to be blunt and direct. It's bad news however you word it so it might as well get the message across well. Yesterday I sent a 1-sentence text to let a girl go after about 4 dates.

I've tried to be more gentle about it in the past; offering feedback, here's why I don't think it'll work, let's keep in touch... but now I'd rather just wash my hands. I don't need new friends like that lol

if it isn't working out i will tell the girl or do it in a subtle but clear way. but women are non-confrontational generally and so are a lot of men, really.

he's married...seeing someone? cool. I respect the honesty...

he gives me "it's me not you" and no further explanation..I'm pissed

I know me & u are very diff by default <3

*hugs*

one of my friends was like...

"have you been out.. are you dating yet?"
me: "girl, I'm not coming out til fall"

it's too damn hot to be talking to people lol

also, in that kind of situation I cant work it until I cross paths with said person again. F the texting bs. Set up a way that yall cross paths again and make it look natural so its meant to be. there goes your shot

seems too easy to ask and say nah...

shoulda spoke up when he saw that ass looking right at the beach.

I would say my biggest conversion from shy kid who basically got laid by accident when I was a teenager/college kid to adult who lives up in some pussy was jettisoning any fear or emotion behind rejection. Mostly this came from observing others. I saw guys who were good-looking and successful psych themselves out of pussy and more importantly I saw guys who weren't either not GAF and get it in. I wouldn't say it's a straight numbers game like some guys seem to think, but there is definitely a medium between being too fine and just putting yourself out there constantly.

There was a time when I would get in my feelings about a couple dates that led nowhere or someone I couldn't get to notice me but no longer. Now I take the mentality that a shot on goal is never a bad play. It's not for the faint of heart, sometimes you will get no reaction at all, but if I get any kind of conversation going, I will get the digits and we'll go out. Lately I have been monogamous with a girl but for most of the past ten years I was dating at least a couple girls at a time and always looking for some jumpoff action.

Now in other contexts it depends. I work two different jobs, one is my own business where I do 100% of the sales and customer service, the other is as a freelance reporter. In the former, I don't have any issue with rejection. I hold myself to a high standard in terms of communication and negotiation, but if the other person doesn't go for it, there isn't much you can do. You're competing with your competitors but also that person's finances as a whole, but luxuries and necessities. A lot of times it just doesnt't work out and you just have to move onto the next deal. In freelancing I have been very lucky to build great relationships with arguably the best clients you can have. I think there was one instance with another client where I didn't handle things especially well but in the end it was a bad fit for us both and I accepted that very readily. It's also kind of like sales, when you're pitching a story or a client, you realize how you are a small part of a bigger picture. Their budget, staff, emphases, etc may not leave them any room for you. I try to focus more on pleasing the clients I do land, because a steady client beats a one-off deal any day.

I kinda laughed thinking back on coke parties and shit, was never really my thing to stretch out a night like that but yeah man I remember cats not sleeping for two or three days lol.

Take the night for what it was and who knows what will happen down the line? It might just not be the right moment.

>I kinda laughed thinking back on coke parties and shit, was
>never really my thing to stretch out a night like that but
>yeah man I remember cats not sleeping for two or three days
>lol.
>
>Take the night for what it was and who knows what will happen
>down the line? It might just not be the right moment.