saturday afternoon, i called my brother. he sounds dejected - as per usual.

i ask him what's going on & he tells me some guys tried to kill him last night.

he was in a car. i assume he was driving. he says that a female friend of his was standing a few yards away, talking to a few guys that she'd already knew.

he then says that he heard one of the men ask his friend, "who, him - that nigga?"

the man, who also happened to be holding a gallon-jar of hennessy, pointed in my brother's direction.

he then hurled the jar at the windshield of the vehicle.

the force shattered the windshield, and the jar hit my brother in the face. during his retelling of these events, i could hear that his mouth was terribly swollen.

my brother got out of the vehicle, at which point the men confronted him.

they asked if my brother had any problems with what had just transpired. my brother replied that there were no problems, save for the ones they'd recently manufactured.

my brother then summoned for his "friend", who made haste returning to the car. once back inside, they both managed to speed off.

as they fled, he said that he heard the sound of several more gunshots being discharged in the direction of their vehicle.

during my attempts to grasp this new information, i did manage to advise my brother to part ways with this mysterious "friend." i added that perhaps she was not the best company. especially if these were the type of men she fraternized with.

(which begs the question; has my brother devolved into one of these men? scary.)

he dismissed this notion, and said "aw, it wasn't her fault. she ain't know all that shit was gonna go down and that them niggas was gon' get ta drinkin' and actin' a fool. besides, everybody in (city) has friends like that"

last night, several men tried to kill my brother.

*also*

- when weighed against some of the other stories my brother has shared w/me in the past - this is probably pg-13. its taken awhile but i'm starting to realize that he should either be more careful to avoid these kinds of events, or keep this shit to himself. its damaging to my psyche, sleep patterns, and appetite.

- my brother & i had a pretty nasty exchange after my learning of these recent events. we cursed one another out pretty thoroughly, and i practically begged him to be wiser going forward. i called him this morning - no answer. i'm fucked up, and trying to stave off the depression that closely follows grappling w/shit like this. i love this kid, he is the closest thing to me, and i'd die for him. but ever since he returned home from prison (2006-2012) he's been a shell of his former self. he's angry and resentful, and in an instant he shuts down on those who love him most.

- this has been one of many recent paradigm-shifts that i've experienced after my paternal grandmother's passing this past december. i totaled my jetta in a rollover accident 2 wks ago - i stayed out fishing (in pretty cold temps) for far too long and dozed off on a two-laner not far from my house. fortunately, i nor anyone else was harmed, thanks to god, the inventor seat-belt, and volkswagen (great cars).

to toss a gallon of hen rock all willy nilly

gotta laugh to keep from cryin i guess

i'm glad he's mostly ok aside from the damage to his car and face. coulda been a lot worse, and i'm certainly glad it wasn't.

but a half gallon of henny would be a decent consolation prize!

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DAMN! Even as harsh/sensitive as this situation is, that
reply was fuckin HILARIOUSLY GOLDEN!

Rare yet Classic OKP form right dere.

aint too many niggas gone throw all that liquor at NObody

it IS really cathartic.

every black american should be furnished w/a free therapist.

almost nowhere else could you find a safe space to get a story like this off your chest - and know that more than a few readers can relate.

i told my white coworker yesterday & he was visibly shaken.

...a basic dude himself, and might need some guidance.

Not gonna front, I was already side-eyeing when he drove his "female friend" to go talk to some dudes that straight disrespected his shit. And what kinda broad hangs around dudes like that? I think most of us already know.

And if dudes are disrespecting him like that then he has LAME written all over him and the wolves can clearly see that shit. They just KNEW he wasn't going to jump out the whip with the heater or come back around with the goons. He needs to (for his survival) understand he ain't built for that life.

it was the girls car that was damaged - my brother was driving.

and furthermore, even under what i assume to be your working definition of a "lame" - a "lame" wouldn't have gotten out of the car and approached several men after offending him.

courage has never been his problem. however; learning when & where to deploy said courage has been a problem.

maybe you missed the part about him serving 6 yrs?

actually, being more of "lame" would probably serve to his (and our family's benfit)

grow up.

that's next level dumb af right there. she's obviously cool with those dudes, right? but they throw a bottle through her windshield.

sound like great friends. damn.

they had to be fuckin i'm thinking. insert alcohol, and this dumb shit happens.

whole stories got a little bit of "set up" to it but it doesn't make sense to let off shots at a car w/a co-conspirator in it.

You don't seem like you are the one to try and give your brother advice if yo can't get out your feelings over some real shit on the Internet.

My point stands... who the fuck is getting bottles thrown at their car? If anything, take all that emo anger out on the people fucking with your fam, not on an avatar.

It's ok tho dude, go all the way OKP. It's what dudes do here.

>grow up.

either that or poor reading comprehension skills

but whatever, you ain't the first one to let me know i'm too emo.

>My point stands... who the fuck is getting bottles thrown at
>their car? If anything, take all that emo anger out on the
>people fucking with your fam, not on an avatar.

wow. textbook retardation. sounds like you might have a lot in common w/my brother.

i'm a grown man w/a wife & kids - not fucking meteor-man. sorry to disappoint.

niggas always try to handle u when u shoulder-roll on they dumb shit

You wrote that your brother had a bottle thrown at the car he was in, challenged by a bunch of dudes then shot at.

Correct?

All because of the chick he was with, correct?

My advice to give to him is that he

1. Shouldn't be around women that put him in positions like that
2. Shouldn't be somewhere that people will peg him as a "mark." A dude brazenly throwing a bottle at someones car is thinking of them as a mark, because a lot of times dudes will hop out with the pistol or come back with the goons. The fact they did that shows that they DGAF (Is your brother built for that DGAF go to jail or get shot lifestyle?), and your brother probably shouldn't hang around them for his safety.


Like I said, real advice. You can continue punching the air if you want to tho.

please stop. el chapo could've been in that car. same shit wld've wnt down.

fyi: alcohol impairs judgement

shit is garbage what'chu tryna kick knowledge?

...thus the "not built for that life" line.

Like you said, everyone is a "mark" to them, because they don't give a fuck. So why be around those types? That's what I said in my first post. Again, you taking this as some sort of insult, but it's just real advice.

Edit: Apologies for the language I used if that's what bugged. Not trying to call your brother lame or wack, man. Just saying that in that *context* (ratchet jawn, raggedy dudes) he can't win because unless he becomes one of them he will always be a "lame" to them.

i do find it ironic that being built for that life requires one to have no apparent fear of death.

so essentially, being "built for that life" requires one to be built for death, lol. wow. and we embrace this shit.

1st off, you high-horsed your reply den a muhfukka.

2nd, you callin dis ninjaz sibling a lame type recklessly. Duke, who is YOU? That was mad outta pocket and you should apologize to Sun.

3rd off, my ninja how you gon' blame the victim? Askin "who gets a bottle thrown at their car?

Naw Bruh.
You coulda came a lil more correct/considerate than that.

i know i got good sense.

my brother tells me otherwise. lol.

I phrased that all wrong up above.

i was THIS close to going off on my twin sis during my lunch break.

i need to take a few steps back from this shit.

i love this nigga tho - and cldn't bear to lose him.

NEVER!! EVER!
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Wake up, Pray! Go to work, Pray! Go home, Pray! Love, Pray! Eat, Pray! Live, Pray!

higher power been dealing w/me after my accident.

still tripping, and kinda amazed i'm still here.

let me also take this opportunity to apologize to you case for my past antagonistic remarks.

whatever source of positivity a person needs to navigate THIS ol' f##ked up world, i applaud it.

Man, I want the best for all of us and I'm glad that you are on your way to living a life that's filled with purpose and passion.
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Wake up, Pray! Go to work, Pray! Go home, Pray! Love, Pray! Eat, Pray! Live, Pray!

when I go to that part.

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I commend him for showing restraint because things could have escalated to an unnecessary death. Next, I agree with you that he should distance himself from this woman, even if she did not instigate the assault upon your brother.

However, he is his own man and probably got some internal battles going on due to his experience being in prison among other things, so perhaps it would be best to not get into any arguments over what company he needs to keep. I am sure he knows that you care about his safety and well being, but may not be emotionally ready to hear you nor whoever else telling him what he needs to do.

In all, he is alive and I am sure things will calm down between the both of you, if it has not happened already.