13105390, This is how it always starts: Posted by caramelapplebttms, Tue Dec-13-16 03:14 PM
Happens more times than I can count, and always in a work setting.
1) After a good convo, guy says "you're cool." 2) Guy starts coming to my cube/ office to "talk" or "catch up." 3) Guy starts offering to do me work-related favors. 4) Guy says some variation of "You're so awesome. Why are you single?" 5) Guy getting more playful/borderline inappropriate w/ touching, or starts hugging me for too long. 6) Guy comes to my cube/ office and says nothing. When I don't do anything, he leaves. 7) Guy either 1) Admits feelings or 2) Gives a platonic "what if?" 8) I listen without judgement, saying something like "I accept what you said, I'm so glad we can remain professional colleagues" or in the platonic situation, tell him what I would do in a way that shoots him down.
Now, how he will take it varies in a few ways. 1) Most often, he'll accept the rejection and continue to be cordial, but more appropriately so. 2) He'll become distant in a weird and obvious way or 3) He'll quit/ transfer jobs (this has only happened in retail).
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