It doesn't hurt for kids that look like Charles to look up to Charles and for people who have much it is fair to expect much. I think to give someone much and at the same time to expect little from them has greater consequences.

The step out of the limelight part to me would be the high road which I wouldn't really expect, but it is an option especially if one is going to be so bold as to impress upon the many young folks who look up to you that you aren't what they thought they were and in effect crushing and or confusing some part of them.