Can you be too busy to date?

the most common reaction i have heard is "thats bullshit, if you want to make it work you would make it work"


I'm learning that it is possible to be too damn busy to be out there trying to play the game.

Poll question: "Too Busy to date" is this real or imagined?

Poll result (12 votes) Totally real. (7 votes) Vote Nah, you can always make time. You should always make time. (5 votes) Vote

wanna have sex often? yeah, i got time for that

wanna go out to eat/drink 3 times a week? yeah, i got time for that cuz i do it anyway. now i'd just do it with you

wanna talk/text/email for hours a day everyday? nah, i ain't got time for that

wanna spend all day with me on weekends? nah, i'm too busy for that

>wanna have sex often? yeah, i got time for that

too busy to search and fine a mate for this for example^^^

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>wanna go out to eat/drink 3 times a week? yeah, i got time for
>that cuz i do it anyway. now i'd just do it with you


too busy to search and fine a mate for this for example^^^^


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>wanna talk/text/email for hours a day everyday? nah, i ain't
>got time for that
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>wanna spend all day with me on weekends? nah, i'm too busy for
>that



but you bring all good points

The hanging out having sex several times a week and not seeing a future together. I don't have time for that.
Hell...my friends complain I don't make enough time for them these days.

If it's someone I like and there's chemistry and I could see it going further id find the time.

shit my wife consciously uncoupled with me for a couple weeks last year
straight work...eat dinner...go to sleep because she was so busy at work

and date, and have sex, and be happy.

I think someone can be too busy for dating but not to date.
They may be willing to see/have time for one person that they think highly of but not the same amount of time or energy for balancing and juggling meeting people.

Because the energy spent finding new people is a relative waste compared to knowing what you're getting into with friend turned lover and already knowing you would easily make time for them.

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

im talking about being too busy to be playing the game to find a person in the first place

but thats just my reality

He'd look at the floor and scribble on gum wrappers
He never found a better way to joke around
The clock would tick, time was slow
There wasn't anywhere that he wouldn't go to avoid
Having to see anyone
He'd sit in a chair and lean against the wall
He just didn't seem to matter much at all
But late at night, he had a savior
In his sleep, in his dreams
She came to him and she said
Poor you, poor you
No one understands you
Poor you, poor you
And every word that everyone would say
Got mumbled up in his head
Like mumblejumble and everywhere he went
It seemed everyone was saying to him
Blah Blah Blah
But late at night, he had a mistress
In his dreams, in his sleep,
And she would say
Poor you, poor you
No one understands you
Poor you, poor you
This story, though not well told, is not that old
It's not that funny, it's not that great
But I know it to be true
Because late at night, I have an angel
In my dreams, in my sleep
And as she runs her fingers through my hair
As I lay on her lap and she says
Poor you, poor you
No one understands you
Poor you, poor you

man, listen: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZL4qRVGNMlk

but as far as dating multiple folks? yeah i can see being too busy for that but who says you have to go on mad dates w/ one person or mad dates w/ multiple folks?

i like to give it a few dates and then figure out if i want to see them more/make time for them. honestly i haven't had to deal w/ more than 2 dudes at once in the 'initial dating' stage at one time and i found that to be manageable

of her coworkers. Physical Therapist, very nice, attractive. BUT she lived on the other side of town which is about an hour away, and goes to bed at about 7:30pm to be up for her AM workouts. That person is basically undateable for anyone who also doesn't have a niche lifestyle that is exactly like hers. I've got my own issues/problems as well, but I think there are a lot of people that set up routines and structures that just aren't compatible with many people they would otherwise be open to dating.

their dog. Then mad they never meet anyone.

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

you gotta leave the house sometimes

www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

Had to be in bed by 9 to get up at 4am to practise yoga. She was cool but it didn't last past date 2.

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but if people spark an undeniable connection, exceptions can be made with the right amount of understanding

you cant be like, "b*tch no you not!"

i guess that's one of those things yall lame n*ggas gotta contend wit.

*cranks that soulja boy all up in my foreign chick*

that's what they are really saying.

those people will date someone they really think is a catch but they aren't going to put in the time for an average nigga to impress them with their poetry skills

k.i.m. at all times.

Thing is, it could have worked with another woman...this one just had no idea how to balance things out, and was almost selfish about it all. But she would really have weeks where she worked 65-70 hours, and then had other meetings and stuff to do when she wasn't working. And what I can say is that, it wasn't solely the fact that she was just "too busy" but that med school/fellowship was her ENTIRE life, to where that's the only damn thing she would talk about. 80% of the conversations we had were about what she had going on there...it was draining as hell.

Dating in Med school just doesn't work b/c you will be hard-pressed to find free-time on a consistent basis. You have to just live together as couples & spend time when you can.

I was actually in Med school but voluntarily withdrew after the 1st semester b/c I didn't want to be a physician that bad to torture myself. Most of my classmates were in their early-to-mid 20s & already in a serious relationship (some of the dudes had kids). All of them were either white or Asian(didn't have kids) except one Nigeria-American dude who was single so there is a cultural aspect to it.

>Dating in Med school just doesn't work b/c you will be
>hard-pressed to find free-time on a consistent basis. You have
>to just live together as couples & spend time when you can.
>
>I was actually in Med school but voluntarily withdrew after
>the 1st semester b/c I didn't want to be a physician that bad
>to torture myself. Most of my classmates were in their
>early-to-mid 20s & already in a serious relationship (some of
>the dudes had kids). All of them were either white or
>Asian(didn't have kids) except one Nigeria-American dude who
>was single so there is a cultural aspect to it.

All you can do lock down s holding pattern.
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DJTB YOMM

our spouses that stay at home.

My first few years of law school and working immediately after only worked with a person who was on the same crazy schedule.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

just like they made time for whatever is keeping too busy.

most people only have their phone in their hand 99.9% of the time.

from a faux-sincere place.