"Gotta hear both sides" - Desus

when I was younger I would take that shit for face value.

If after asking why a situation/relationship did not work and the response is "yo, bitch was crazy" I would accept it and keep it moving.


Now?

I'm thinking "bro, what the fuck did you do her?"

Mentally imbalanced people exist for sure, but I'm less likely to think my friends have the unfortunate luck of dating every imbalanced woman out there.



Random thought

doesn't mean that it isn't some "crazy" ones out there.

I've dated 3-4 in my life that were legit crazy, and what was wild is that there weren't many, or even any signs early on...it's cases where it can literally come out of nowhere.

As far as me doing something to bring the crazy out, eh...I actually didn't. In one case, I just told the girl that it wasn't going to work, and basically ended our situation...and she couldn't handle it. Another case was pretty similar to that. In that first case, her "crazy" involved her calling me and setting up a "what if" scenario for her being pregnant, and when I kept asking "are you pregnant???" she would say "just answer the question, what would you do if I was??" And after I answered it with a "good enough response" and she said "ok," I asked...."so........are you pregnant?" and she says "no!!! Why would you think I'm pregnant? Of course I'm not!"

I also messed with one chick who was legit crazy. Like, we were ONLY fuck buddies, mainly bc of her choice, and she would tell me about other guys. One time, she showed me all these cuts she had on her wrist because she would "fake commit suicide for fun" when a guy she liked didn't respond or went ghost. One night, the guy she was dating ditched her early for a party, and she told me to come over. I went to the bathroom, and in lipstick, she wrote "I *heart drawn out* Jared!!!" HUGE on her mirror. I got back into her room and asked WTF that was about, and she said "I don't know, I just felt like doing that."

True in my tiny experience.



>One night, the guy she was dating ditched her early for
>a party, and she told me to come over. I went to the bathroom,
>and in lipstick, she wrote "I *heart drawn out* Jared!!!" HUGE
>on her mirror. I got back into her room and asked WTF that was
>about, and she said "I don't know, I just felt like doing
>that."


You were living a real live horror movie.

Perhaps that came from being raised by a woman... I dunno...
But then I dated a woman who'd JUST left an abusive relationship
where the man used to beat the shit outta her. It didn't take long
for me to understand why anyone would want to hit her.
When she wasn't pleased, she lashed out with violence, both physical
and emotional.
I didn't hit her (back), of course. I just left.
But it was never clearer that some people ain't ready and have to
save themselves from themselves.

So we just say 'mann bitch crazy' as a default answer

it depends on who is telling the story and their dating history.

the crazy one.

Like you happen to hear her side of the story and you like "whoa, my dude?"


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

has posts on FB about how women never like the good men, how they only want rich guys and thugs (yeah, he's 38, not 23), and how he's ready for a wife, but it's not enough good women out here.

I remember when he hit us all up from jail a few years ago, and it was like....wait, jail? When he got out, he said "man, I just lost it...my baby mom kept calling me a horrible father and saying I wasn't shit, and I just snapped and hit her one time." I didn't think that was cool, but I figured he just lost it that ONE time, since she was throwing the lowest of low blows.

We went to Roscoe's with him a few months later, and he had some girl picking him up. We saw her drive into the parking lot as we were still inside, and then she drove off.....so he called her like "why did you leave?" and she claimed that she saw him talking to some girls inside, which wasn't the case at ALL...none of us had talked to any. He starts going off on her, saying "that's bullshit, I've been at the table with my niggas the whole time!" After ten min, she finally drives back, and we walk outside.

We get outside, and he storms toward the car PISSED. He launches his doggy bag literally 20-30 feet, and starts yelling at her, "THE FUCK IS YOUR PROBLEM?!?!?? I WASN'T TALKIN TO NO BITCHES!!!! I WAS IN HERE WITH MY NIGGAS!!!! YOU SO FUCKIN STUPID!!!! STUPID ASS BITCH!!!! THE FUCK!!!! HOW THE FUCK YOU SEE ME TALKIN TO SOME BITCHES WHEN I WAS AT THE TABLE INSIDE?!??? AND THEN YOU JUST GONNA DRIVE OFF??? FUCK YOU!!!! YOU STUPID AS FUCK!!!!!!!!!!"

I'm just standing there in complete shock....couldn't even say anything at all....and she just sat there in the car looking straight, not making eye contact with him. Then........he got inside her car, and she drove off.

I said yeah........this dude is for real nuts. I'd never been paralyzed to the point that I didn't even wanna hold him back or calm him down, because it came outta nowhere. You know a dude is crazy if he throws a bag of Roscoe's 20 feet.

shit is mad disrespectful off top

I'm sorry but I don't think there is any word that can justify getting run over by a car...LOL.

Once you hit someone you are certified CRAZY...

or let a raging felon with a record for beating another woman in the car with you...

you just crazy with less of a chance of getting your ass beat if you run him over.

>You know a dude is crazy if he throws a bag of Roscoe's 20 feet.
>

.

When it comes to relationships most people are doing some crazy or otherwise unbecoming shit at some point or the other.

I do not want to know.

End up finding out some goofy shit about your friend like he set some girl's stuffed animals on fire because somebody sent her a text late at night and then you gotta decide whether you ignore it or roast the shit out of him for it and risk YOUR Teddy Ruxpin going up in flames or whatever.

Everyone's crazy and I don't want any of the details unless I'm being paid to litigate it.

You a gossipy ass nigga ain't u. How do you even hear her side?

beyond the fact you knew that fool was nuts. so what.

yep. hit dog hollering

crazy member of the clique check in

You gotta wear a bullet proof vest in here just saying the words "man law"

*ducks*

See, I almost got shot eShot right now for speaking it

throwing em under the bus and rolling forward than backing up on a nigga.

If he's your homie, and you gossip to your lady taking bout how crazy he is, then she gon question you when you hang out with him.

Next thing you know you up in the house watching some random housewife show not allowed to go shoot some pool and shit.

Niggas trapping themselves.

Two or more consecutive relationships.
Theres a lot of crazy out there and a lot of it labelled as "normal"/"passionate"/"intense"/opinionated etc these days.

Might sound trivial but I always go back to Adele and her Hello song. That shit is crazy. And if any man told me he had an ex behaving like Adele portrays herself in that song.... I'd definitely call her crazy.

reminds me of Every Breath You Take

yeah, I'm sure the homie Sting intended for it to be some heartfelt romanticized mojo sauce jawn

to hear it now, sounds like the stalker's playbook.

i'm just bored with desperate, need you so much, calling you all the time, can't live without you woman songs.

i'll take we are never ever getting back together before that. she makes taylor swift look the second coming of gloria steinem.

while the video tells a different story, it's actually a song about introspection. the video does a disservice to the actual intent of the song.

From Adele:
http://www.today.com/popculture/adele-talks-motherhood-tattoos-more-today-show-ive-never-been-t59966

One of the most beautiful songs off the album is the first single, "Hello," a song that's already spawned dozens of beautiful covers. Adele said it's about "reconnecting."

"'Hello' is just about reconnecting with everyone else and myself," said the 27-year-old singer to Lauer. "From the other side, I couldn't get over my guilt of leaving my kid to go and write a record and stuff like that. So getting over that -- getting on the other side of that. It was just, you know; it's, in general, just hello to everyone."

Crazy explaining/justifying crazy. Lol. I don't buy it.
There's another song on the album with a similar theme. That's introspection too? Nope. Not buying it. Lol

does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

it was either a misunderstanding that blew up
stubbornness on one or both sides
or doomed from jump

So if your boy says that you just gotta nod and keep it moving, no follow up questions. It's not like you need to be making decisions or passing judgement off of who was crazy or not in your friend's relationship.

HOWEVER, if they say "that b was crazy" too many times in back to back relationships, you do reserve the right to question him back at some point like "uh...are you sure you aren't the crazy one?"

and if they sound crazy, I will agree, she crazy...

but then again, I know my friends and the ones who always say it always go after those types so they get no sympathy.

shit has never been a serious accusation tho, more so "she showed up to my crib at 4AM kicking my door" or dude who said he woke up and went outside and there was a condom in a cup on his front steps.

he never knew who left it but more than likely it was a crazy broad.

https://youtu.be/BJ6rklIrJ2s

in recent years I've taken to footnoting my "that bitch/dude is crazy!" with "....but we're all some type of crazy so it's w/e" or something to that effect. Cause I'm definitely crazy in a lot of ways. Once I came to terms with that it was like "oh wait - everyone is"

Sure, some folks over react too much. Some are too emotion driven. Some are extremely eccentric to where you have to be seen as "weird" to understand them. But crazy? Ehhh. Nah.

lets call a spade a spade.

Personally I'm at my lifetime limit for craziness btwn my mother and sister so I'm good.

These two got into a fist fight the last time I took a family vacation with them.

Never again.

I'm looking for someone to bring the boring.

>I'm looking for someone to bring the boring.
>

>
>I'm looking for someone to bring the boring.
>

you crazy as shit.

you crazy as a long tailed cat inna room full of rocking chairs.

please believe it. dont think you aint nutty as hell.

maybe they nuttIER. but you in that nut bag too.

have a great tuesday.

The "crazy bitches" that have been in my family normally take a level10 offense and come back with a level 15 retaliation.

My cousin just got cut yesterday for a text.