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12907031, What would you do? Posted by Damali, Wed Dec-31-69 07:00 PM
A family member (or friend) you haven't spoken to in a long time (who you have no negative history with) is in the hospital and you KNOW that if you call them, the first thing they gonna say is:
"Oh so i guess i have to be in the hospital to hear from you!"
what you gonna do?
Poll question: What would you do?
Poll result (20 votes) | Call anyway and take the lecture | (13 votes) | Vote | Not call...don't feel like hearing that shit | (2 votes) | Vote | Call but pre-empt the lecture somehow | (1 votes) | Vote | not call but send flowers (or something) | (4 votes) | Vote | other | (0 votes) | Vote |
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12907034, nothing matters and we are all going to die. call them. Posted by double negative, Mon Oct-05-15 11:31 AM
a friend lost his mother recently. they fought, she called him something along the lines of a "f*ggot asshole" so he never called he when she went to the hospital. she died very quickly after without resolving anything and hes all fucked up it.
so.....call
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12907160, he'd likely be a mess afterwards regardless -- sounds like a lose lose Posted by Atillah Moor, Mon Oct-05-15 01:25 PM
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12907173, Agreed. Some things can't be unheard. Posted by Moonlit_Force, Mon Oct-05-15 01:32 PM
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12907036, You HAVE to call... Posted by Af-1, Mon Oct-05-15 11:32 AM
Apart from them being in hospital, why haven't they called you? What's the expectation for you to have called?
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12907043, no i'm good. i talk to my mom all the time Posted by Damali, Mon Oct-05-15 11:37 AM
it's various other family members that hardly call her that are getting the business over the phone LOL
and it's kinda funny...they are calling me like "um she's kinda cranky"
what you expect? she's in the hospital! i'd be cranky too
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12907037, My older sister be on that shit, knowing damn well she got a phone too Posted by John Forte, Mon Oct-05-15 11:33 AM
they never text or call you, but be all up in their feelings that YOU didn't reach out.
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12907048, lol you know? Posted by Damali, Mon Oct-05-15 11:40 AM
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12907040, I call... some people are wired funny Posted by legsdiamond, Mon Oct-05-15 11:35 AM
and always have some shit to say when you call...
but that isn't my problem.
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12907041, my default reply is "phones work both ways" Posted by southphillyman, Mon Oct-05-15 11:36 AM
i recently went to a wedding where the first thing the person who invited me said to me was "hello stranger" i haven't heard from them since...... not even to say thank you for the gift i gave
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12907047, ah yes..that's a perfect response Posted by Damali, Mon Oct-05-15 11:39 AM
>i recently went to a wedding where the first thing the person >who invited me said to me was "hello stranger"
ugh..i've said that a few times...imma stop tho cuz it does come off very judge-y
>i haven't heard from them since...... >not even to say thank you for the gift i gave
ok now that's foul
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12907057, ^^^^^even though I really dont be callin lol Posted by rdhull, Mon Oct-05-15 11:47 AM
even though I really dont be callin lol
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12907142, i used to say that to my grandmother (RIP). Posted by SoWhat, Mon Oct-05-15 01:13 PM
i now understand that she didn't want to speak w/me as much as she wanted ME to call HER. b/c by calling her i'd signal to her that she holds some importance in my life as evidenced by my willingness to take time out of my (assumedly busy) schedule to call her.
b/c if she just wanted to talk to me she would've called. if she wanted to know what's going w/me she can get that info from my mother. that's not what she meant when she complained that i never called. i didn't get it then but i get it now. and i'm trying to be better about this issue w/my remaining relatives. but i'm still not great about it. lol
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12907164, I get this with parents/grandparents but fuck any sibling on that Posted by John Forte, Mon Oct-05-15 01:29 PM
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12907049, green Posted by SooperEgo, Mon Oct-05-15 11:40 AM
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12907050, I would respond... Posted by BabyYoda, Mon Oct-05-15 11:41 AM
However, it would depend who the person is as well as our relationship with each other. I will take the lecture from an older relative, but would say something g snarky back to someone within my peer group.
Communication is a 2 way street. The person should be appreciative that he or she got a phone call from anyone, whether it is due to a dire situation or not.
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12907055, Call - I dont let those lectures get into my spirit Posted by soken, Mon Oct-05-15 11:45 AM
"so I have to be in the hospital for you to call?"
You - "Yea but not really *insert joke*, but glad you well. stayed blessed."
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12907060, how bad off is she in the hospital? Posted by Big Kuntry, Mon Oct-05-15 11:49 AM
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12907077, If I were feeling some type of way once I found out they were sick I'd... Posted by Moonlit_Force, Mon Oct-05-15 12:09 PM
... just send flowers and a "thinking of you and hoping for a speedy recovery" card.
The older I get, the less patient I am with familial passive aggressiveness.
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12907119, I'm the exact opposite, the older i get, the easier it is to shrug comments Posted by legsdiamond, Mon Oct-05-15 12:52 PM
and jabs from people.
I grew up in a family that was judgey and filled with shit talkers. If they don't talk shit o,ecrack a joke I wonder if they are mad at me or going through something.
my best friends mom was giving a speech and said... "if I don't joke with you or less with you, it's cause I don't mess with you"
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12907135, My response: "At least I didn't wait until the seance." Posted by FLUIDJ, Mon Oct-05-15 01:06 PM
"Get ready..for your blessing..."
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12907143, i like that. LOL Posted by SoWhat, Mon Oct-05-15 01:13 PM
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12907144, I'm stealing this. Posted by Moonlit_Force, Mon Oct-05-15 01:13 PM
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12907161, Yellow, you should face to face if you're trying to resolve something Posted by Atillah Moor, Mon Oct-05-15 01:26 PM
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12907170, "look, Im just calling to make sure you're okay" Posted by atruhead, Mon Oct-05-15 01:31 PM
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12907180, Call anyway, take the lecture Posted by dustin, Mon Oct-05-15 01:37 PM
Hospitals can really mess with your head when you're in there. All the death and disease in the air. You need fam around you.
And cause you don't wanna regret not calling later
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