i embrace that i wasnt forced to marry a 50 year old man when i was a teenager.

i embrace that even now, i could take a homeless man off the street, clean him up, and make him my husband. or i could wait for someone that i feel is more suitable and hope he finds me suitable as well. those are both choices.

i also embrace the fact that there are things i cant control. that homeless dude might reject me. the guy i wait for might end up being abusive. i can only shift and adjust based on what comes back to me from my efforts. but the reality is that i do not have complete control over my romantic life. no one does. people dont have A reason why theyre single, married, etc...they have multiple reasons, many of which are beyond their control. which is my point.