>im not going to beat myself up for that.
>
>your reply is funny to me because people love making
>judgements from the outside looking in. then they get in
>relationships and make DIFFERENT stupid decisions and other
>people judge them from the outside looking in.

This is true but at some point a little self reflection is in order, don't you think? Most men would rather chew off their right arm then tell you, you're not the one. Passive aggressive behavior is the norm, not the exception when guys are not interested. I can't look back and see how naive I was to think otherwise.

>i have friends that have endured relationship situations that
>I would never put up with and i'm sure they would say the same
>thing about me. no relationship is perfect. at the end of the
>day, its all about how much people are willing to go through
>together. i haven't met a man who was willing to fight for me
>yet. that isn't necessarily a reflection of the relationship's
>potential. that particular guy was stupid for not fighting for
>me.

If a guy isn't willing to make time for you, there's no potential. You're not going to endure your way through neglect or mistreatment by guys into a loving happy relationship. You might get some kind of dysfunctional painful time wasting bs.

At some point you have to have standards, be responsible for your own happiness, acknowledge your needs and if someone is not able or willing to meet them for whatever reason (seemingly reasonable or not) just bounce.